Wednesday, August 30, 2017

So much insecurity over such a minor picture....

I know I'm a little late on this one (and look forward to more late thoughts on recent events including the Google Memo and the protest in Charlottesville) but its been swirling in my head for a while and just won't go away so here goes.

So recently Ashley Carman of The Verge expressed her confusion and dismay over her boyfriend liking an Instagram photo of a woman showing off her ass.

One question she asks is, "Is he so un-evolved that he can’t resist the allure of a butt pic?"

Well yeah that's a great way to have a conversation to gain understanding. Just insult the guy and I'm sure everything will change to just the way she likes it and her boyfriend will simply stop liking bikini booty pics.

So after deciding that her method of saving likes for, "...for people I know IRL and who I figure would derive joy out of the fact that I liked their photo." is so superior and not understanding why her boyfriend isn't evolved enough to do what she does she moves on to asking some colleagues about it.

She gets commentary from several of them but I think the ending of Kaitlyn's comment is a big clue.
"That said, your boyfriend liking this pic is a little weird, but mostly because he’s a boy. I don’t feel it’s too controversial for me to say that the rules of “Instagram creeping” are slightly different for me, a girl."
I think she has a good point. If a guy likes a pic of a woman on social media there is a tendency to assume absolute worst faith. And honestly this difference in rules is probably at the core of Ashley's supposed "confusion and dismay". She wants to hold him to a different standard because he's a guy but directly admitting it would be sexist and she wants to avoid that.

But I think Zainab really hits it home by admitting to what seems to be plain old fashioned jealousy.
I find it so Neanderthal-esque that men can’t help but have their fingers slip and double tap a big, almost naked butt. The entire concept of my boyfriend, or boyfriends in general, following random “fitness” girls and models they'll never meet irks me. When they throw them a like is when it reaches another level of dumb for me. Not because I feel threatened, but because it’s such a simple thing to not do when you have a beautiful girl right in front of you!
Yeah she doesn't feel threatened at all she just like to insult men for liking a pic, getting angry over it, and then going on about how its wrong to do it when there is a beautiful girl right in front of them.

Im gonna go ahead and say it.

Ashley is expressing a level of insecurity that if shown by a man talking about his girlfriend was liking pics of hit guys would be called all sorts of names and insults and would be dragged from one end of the net to the other over his "fragile masculinity" (which seems to be code for "Im going to insult you in order to cover up my own inadequacies).

Now that being said I don't want to follow that path and start dumping on her.

What I would like to do though is ask that if she has a problem with something her boyfriend is doing try expressing it in a manner that is not so insulting and condescending. A sure fire way to shut a guy out is start off calling him names and acting he is beneath you.

I hope Ashley gets to a place where she can openly talk about this with her boyfriend in a way that shows she is not just interested in tearing into him.

Saturday, August 26, 2017

Mashup August 26, 2017

Got Links?

Proof that Americans are lying about their sexual desires- Considering how sexually repressed the vast majority of Americans are it doesn't surprise me that people lie about their desires.

'If a girl can throw a punch, she can take one': Vile comments spark outrage on police Facebook page after post about domestic violence against MEN - This is a really old one but it caught my attention because of the way that a single case of a woman killed by domestic violence was used to silence the mere acknowledgement that men are abused.

WONDER WOMAN: Why the DCEU Doesn’t Need Superman - Hint: Its because the writer doesn't like the direction Superman has taken in the DCEU so far.

We’re losing a whole generation of young men to video games - A whole generation is not being lost to video games. Its being lost to a constant bombardment of how they are bad, how they are privileged, how they hurt women, and how they must change in order to make women's lives better. Maybe if someone expressed some concern for men for our own fucking sake we might give a shit in return?

Black Officer Shoots And Kills Unarmed White Woman, Now See What Happening In America - It's all fun and games until a white woman gets hurt.

on Ghostbusters and identity - To this day I still say that Ghostbusters 2016 was a casualty of identity politics. If it wasn't for people preemptively defending it by declaring that any and all criticism of it was based in misogyny it would have at worst just flown under the radar as another mediocre attempt at making a modern version of a classic film.

Washington's biggest problem isn't gridlock or wasted dollars — it's men - Because blaming all the troubles on a single demographic is a surefire way to unite everyone....

USA Today Complains About Lack of 'Women' and 'No Lead Actors of Color' in Movie 'Dunkirk' - Wait so there is a problem with a movie about white guys trying to save white guys from other white guys that are trying to kill those white guys lacking women and actors of color?

Why It's a Bad Idea to Tell Students Words Are Violence - Trying to expand the definition of a word just in order to justify actions you want to take (namely wanting to physically attack someone for saying something you don't like) will not end well.

Dang — looks like those women-only “Wonder Woman” screenings were illegal - Oh how convenient of them to wait until more than a month after Wonder Woman's theatrical run for them to finally fess up that what they did was wrong. And then have the fucking nerve to offer a DVD as some sort of half assed non-apology apology.

Why We Can’t Have the Male Pill - Along with the science I think there are cultural reasons that delay a male pill. Because if a reliable male pill came along it would give men a degree of power in reproduction that a lot of people are simply not ready for.

A Non-Feminist FAQ - Its about a year old but still worth reading. I'll warn that its a LONG read but pretty good.

THINKING STRATEGICALLY ABOUT FREE SPEECH AND VIOLENCE - We definitely have to turn back on this. People are so wrapped up in cool memes and scathing insults to justify violence against supposed Nazis that it is slowly becoming a case people getting so preoccupied with whether or not they should that they didn't stop and think about whether or not they should.

Mike Chen of the Strictly Dumpling channel on YouTube showing
off a 9 layer tower of seafood that I want really damn bad.