Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Sounds like making excuses to me

Like most people who pay attention to gender related topics you probably recall the Steubenville rape case. To give a brief summary several members of a high school football team in the city of Steubenville, OH raped a girl. Their method was to take advantage of a girl that was unable to consent (I believe she was passed out drunk) and not only did they take turns raping her but they recorded it. 

During the trial, after the guilty verdict, and even after the sentences were handed out there was a fairly large public outcry....for the rapists.

Pleas that they were good people. Claims that they had bright futures ahead of them. All in all people who were trying to downplay the horrible crime they committed and even trying to frame the issue as if they were the victims of some tragic circumstance.

This sort of treatment is frequently (and correctly) pointed out when the criminals are male. But I find it odd that when the criminal is female and the same attempt at downplaying happens it tends to slide under the radar of people who have a problem with it when it happens for male criminals.


This is Elaine B. Goodman. Elaine raped an under age boy, her daughter's boyfriend in fact. When she pled guilty to the crime she faced up to 15 years in prison. Now mind you I think 15 years may be a bit overkill but there is no doubt in my mind that this woman deserved hard time for what she did. She committed one of the worst crimes of all on top of the fact that she committed it against a child. But the judge presiding over the case, Robert B. Young, felt otherwise and sentenced her to two years probation.

According to Young, "This came out of the blue,". While acknowledging that a terrible thing happened and people were affect he seems to have concluded that "...incarceration is not the answer."

It would be easy to fly into a rage and go on about gender flips but calm is needed here.

Sentencing like this is why people are able to see that when it comes to justice for sex crimes its not uniform. There is no "sex crimes are taken seriously no matter who the victim is or who the perp is". 

When a male criminal is given a light sentence for a major crime it becomes a national outrage as it should. Saying that he is a pillar of the community or that he has a bright future ahead of him or that he contributes to society would fall of deaf ears because we all know that past or even the potential of future contributions do not make up for committing a horrible crime. 

So why is it acceptable for women?

Simple. Crimes committed by women, especially those committed against males, are seen as lesser crimes. There is a level of compassion, empathy, and sympathy that is reserved for women that men are simply denied.

Because of this women are given slack in ways that would spark outrage if extended to men.

Cases like this don't help. The judge basically said that yes she did something terrible but she doesn't deserve to be held responsible for it or to be punished for it. What kind of follow through is that?

I know it can be counter productive to just rant and rave about situations like this but frankly using those rants as a way to avoid addressing this is even more counter productive because it perpetuates a female privilege and allows it to continue unchallenged.

For all the talk of treating people of all genders equally you would think that this would be acknowledged by more people.

Stay Frosty!










Sunday, January 15, 2017

Weekly Mashup - Resurrection Style

How goes it folks? This isn't a fully fleshed out post on a single topic but its a return of the Weekly Mashup posts that I used to do in the past. A lot has been happening and I wanted to at least get some thoughts out on recent happenings.

Proud Single Mom January Jones: Father Figure Would Be Toxic For My Son - This is what happens when you turn your child into a political statement. Don't turn your child into a political statement. Frankly it sounds like Jones has had some bad experiences with guys and concluded that all men are bad but doesn't want to come out and say that all men are bad when it comes to parenting and influencing children.

No Boys Allowed: The New Rule of Co-Working Spaces - After seeing clubs like this I have pretty much decided that there is nothing wrong with the mere existence of male only spaces and clubs.

Politico’s misleading article on Betsy DeVos and campus sexual assault - Donating to a organization that supports due process is not the same as donating to an organization that wants to raise the burden of proof on sexual assault victims. Trying to pass off the former as the latter that is an appeal to emotion in order to smear people or ideas you don't like. Kinda like when the recording industry first started fighting against piracy one of their tactics was to lump downloading music in with child porn.

Liberals are drunk on a political poison called intersectionality - The concept of intersectionality is an analytical tool meant to account for the various oppressions and non oppressions that an individual may have due to having several identities. Unfortunately liberals have turned it into a bludgeon and silencing tool to attack people who don't fully agree with them on every topic.

Towards a feminist politics of "male survivorship" - Do you think that this could be a sign that not only feminists are starting to see how not only male victims but males in general are treated by feminism but also a sign that feminism itself will one day actually be as inclusive of men as it frequently brands itself as being but is not in practice? There is hope that one day all will be well.



Liana K on self esteem, outrage, and compassion.

Take the time to mill these link around in your mind and don't be scared to share a few of your own if you have them.

See you next week!

Monday, November 14, 2016

Curious why Trump won?

The talk of the town is the latest US Presidential Election. As you may recall Donald Trump was the Republican candidate and Hillary Clinton was the Democratic candidate. In the wee hours of November 9th Donald Trump obtained the needed 270 Electoral Votes to win the election.

Now one thing that needs to be said that there is still a very small chance that Trump won't become the next president. You see the people who cast the official Electoral College votes don't do so until sometime in December. Not only that but there is a little known and even lesser used clause.

The people who cast the Electoral Votes don't have to abide by the results of the election.

To put it more clearly despite Trump winning 290 Electoral Votes (Clinton had 228) the people who cast the official do not have to necessarily vote for Trump in December. Meaning that any number of those 290 can basically say, "I don't care what the Electoral Vote said, I'm voting Clinton.". Well if enough of them do this to result in Clinton getting the 270 Electoral Votes then boom Trump loses and Clinton is our next president.

Now while that sounds good on paper I worry that Clinton supporters are so excited for a possible saving grace that would prevent a Trump presidency that they are not going to pay any mind to why Clinton didn't get the 270 votes on November 8th.

Clinton lost the election for a few reasons. And frankly I think her fan-base is more responsible for her loss than she herself is.

1. She's a woman. I'm going to go ahead and get this one out of the way because most Clinton readers coming across this post will likely stick to this reason and ONLY this reason. There is no question that Clinton faced a unique set of roadblocks to getting into the White House because of her gender. However by no means is that the only reason she didn't win.

2. She talked in abstracts rather than specifics. Pop Quiz name something specific Clinton said she wants to do once in office. And I'm not talking "bring in a new era of peace" or "focus on equality" or "make positive change" something like that I'm talking specifics. I honestly can't think of one. On the other hand even for as much as I don't like Trump he gave specifics like "I want to build a wall to keep Mexicans out", "I want to impose limits on Congressional positions", and things like that. And Clinton's fans were even worse. I can recall conversations with some of her supporters where when asked what exactly is Clinton got in mind and they would reply with "ugh educate yourself".

If you have a chosen candidate and an opportunity to make your case comes up you can't condescendingly dismiss them and expect to still get support for your candidate.

3. Double standards. As I said above there are certainly things that came up in this election cycle that Clinton faced that a male candidate would not have. But those things are not an excuse to engage in your own hypocrisy. For just one example.

When Trump's "they let you grab them by the pussy" comment came out Clinton's fan-base was all over it. When Trump called Clinton a "nasty woman" Clinton's fan-base latched onto it and even tried to own it.

When a subset of the Sanders fan-base were dubbed "BernieBros" Clinton's fan-base was all over it demanding that Sanders himself call them out and denounce the behavior. 

When it came to light that Clinton trashed and shamed the women that accused her husband Bill has sexually assaulted them the Clinton fan-base was all over it....to say that its misogyny to hold her responsible for Bill's actions. Notice the slight of hand. When Hillary responded to women accusing her husband of sexual assault by shaming and trashing them, her fan-base framed it as saying she was responsible for Bill's actions and then said it was unfair to treat Hillary this way.

How can you call for denouncement when an opposing candidate do something bad, call for denouncements when an opposing candidate's fan-base does bad things but then reframe things when YOUR candidate does bad things to make her/him look like the victim? We're supposed to think that Clinton is not responsible for how SHE, not Bill, but SHE treated those women? How progressive of you.

4. Doubling down on labels. I'm going to be frank here. A lot of the Clinton support hinged on calling anyone that didn't vote for her a woman hating racist. That's it. It was supposed to be just so painfully obvious that Clinton was the right choice that the only possible reason you could have not supported her was because you're a woman hating racist. 

Thing is the Clinton fan-base rested its laurels on shaming people into voting for her instead of laying out what she was going to do or plan to do and show that she was better than Trump. Now I understand why someone would think that because Trump is a mess but at the same time they never stopped to think exactly how someone would respond to be told they are a woman hating racist if they don't vote for Clinton. No discussion. No nuance. No exchange of ideas. No attempt to convince. Just screaming at the top of the lungs that their candidate is the only good choice.

No one wants to be lectured at no matter how good the lecturer thinks their lecture is.

Also notice that nearly 40% of Americans didn't vote. More than enough people to have tipped the scales for Clinton. Maybe if the Clinton fan-base had talked to them in some other way than preemptive calling them woman hating racists some more of them would have gotten off their asses and voted.

Votes look for candidates to talk to them. To tell them they matter. To tell them they will at least try to alleviate their fears, solve their problems, and make positive changes. Clinton didn't do that for people and her fan-base sure as shit didn't do that.

5. Campaigning style. I'm not talking about Clinton herself on this one this is entirely on her fan-base. Her fan-base didn't campaign FOR Clinton. No they put the vast majority of their effort into campaigning AGAINST Trump. There was way to- little of "Clinton plans to do...." and way too much of "Check out this horrible thing that Trump did/said!". (MRAs, I want you to heed this one especially.)

6. Gender. Simply put her fan-base was way too fixated on getting A woman into the White House that they really didn't case that she was THE BEST candidate. Nope to them it was have vagina will win. Even now most of them won't believe that there is any reason to have not voted Clinton and will just assume sexism.

That's why she lost and its really showing itself now that the election has passed. 

What have a lot of Clinton supporters been doing since the election?

Spitting out post after post about who is to blame for Clinton losing and they blaming everyone from white men, to men in general, to white people in general, to racism, to sexism. and everything in between except their own actions. They have firmly decided that they did absolutely nothing wrong (despite the 4 reasons I listed above) to contribute to Clinton losing.

I really hope people in her fan-base and people on the Left in general take heed and realize they can't insult and shame their way into getting their candidate into the White House.

Let me finish by saying that I am not a Trump fan. I think he is at best an incompetent politician and at worst will be the equivalent of electing an upper class noble whose ruling style will be a nightmare to anyone that isn't upper class. I am saying that if you want to beat someone like that you can't sensationalize everything he does, label anyone that doesn't rail against him with no discussion, try to hide your candidate's flaws, and then put words in everyone's mouths when your candidate didn't win.


Sunday, November 13, 2016

About those comments.....

I'm in the process of getting back into posting again and one change I'm making is something that I have been wanting to do for over a year now.

Get rid of IntenseDebate for commenting.

When I first started using it was great and did a lot of good but after while they made some changes that just hosed up the commenting and my attempts to contact them for support were all for naught.

So I've decided that I'm just going to press the big red button and yank IntenseDebate off the blog.

The reason I didn't do this about a year ago is because I was scared to lose comments. But at this point I've been out of the game for almost a year now and the comments feel like they came from a different era.

Bear in mind I haven't gotten rid of any posts but you may see that comments that were once there are gone.

I do apologize for gutting the comments but IntenseDebate just wasn't doing it for me anymore. I've gone back to the original basic Blogger commenting system as I think that will do just fine.

Take it easy!

Friday, October 21, 2016

Finding Focus

So how goes it folks?

Yes I know it's been awhile since I have posted regularly or at all. Frankly, its been hectic. Between my job, being married, being a step dad, reading, playing games, trying to get my thoughts together, surviving Hurricane Matthew (I'm okay), and life in general, I just have not had time to invest in this blog.

However, I have noticed something. Over the last several months I have been seeing stories here and there and I would think on it. I'd have an opinion. If I felt like it I would comment, have a discussion or two and that was it. I'd be angry sometimes. I'd be confused sometimes. But due to the things in my first paragraph, I just have not been able to put finger to keyboard.

But more importantly, I'm noticing that I am starting to bubble up trying to get it all out.

My thoughts are piling up and they have to come out. I'm not sure how they will come out. I'm not sure what all the thoughts will be.

But just know that this won't be the last time I post here...