Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Eighteen words. Two meanings.

So I was just roaming around on my Facebook feed and saw an interesting post by a Jasmin Newman (whom I've already contacted and got her permission to mention her here).

Here is the post she made:



If you are not able to read it is says the following:
"Nobody ever asks a man how they get things done. Nobody asks a man how he finds balance." Shonda Rhimes, Feminist screenwriter."
"Nobody ever asks a man how they get things done. Nobody asks a man how he finds balance." Jasmin Newman, Non feminist writer.
We are equal. The difference is empathy.
The exact same 18 words but meaning two different things from two different people.

Shonda Rhimes says those words with the context that while women are burdened with being questioned about how they find balance to get things done as if they can not pull those things off men are allowed a free pass and are not questioned. Its meant to say that men are in a privileged position of being able to just do what we do without people wondering how we can get things done and achieve balance.

Jasmin Newman says those words with a context of men are just demanded and expected to do what needs to be done with no care as to how we do them, what it may cost, and with little to no regard for our well being. Its meant to say that men aren't show the attention and care that we should be shown to see if we are balancing things out and making sure our well-being is taken care of.

In short Rhimes assumes that since we are men we MUST be in a better position than women on this issue. Newman points that as men our position isn't as great as people like Rhimes would have you believe.

Frankly I don't want women to be in a position where they are just expected and demanded to work themselves to death in silence with no one caring how they feel and how they are doing.

And that's the difference that is often ignored. While women are asked in a condescending manner "How do you, a woman, do such things?" there is no doubt that there is also a great degree of genuine care and concern for their well-being in such questions and let me tell you that is more than what men get.

Usually men aren't shown that level of care and concern until our productivity is so negatively affected someone takes notice and THEN they care how we are doing.

That is the supposed "privilege" Rhimes is talking about here. She is so focused on the fact that men aren't asked those questions that she either fails to see (or refuses to see) why men aren't asked those questions. It would be the same as saying, "Nobody questions why women cry." and then ignoring all the context of why its seen as okay for women to cry.

Now I know Rhimes aims to empower women and question the ways in which women are treated and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. However if she aims to go about it by falsely portraying the situation men are in then that is a problem and one that needs to be corrected.

And by the way, thanks for asking Jasmin.

Thursday, June 15, 2017

Mashup - June 14, 2017

Got Links?

6 Backward Ideas Hollywood Still Has About Men - Yes I know its Cracked. Yes I know they care more about smearing men than actually talking pop culture. But also know that even a broken clock can be right sometimes.

Oxford Uni student who could be spared jail for stabbing boyfriend in 'one-off attack' has 'assaulted him TWICE before' - coughcoughBrockTurnercoughcough. Excuse me. Just choking on the observation that this got nowhere near the level attention it should have. Because at least Brock Turner actually served time.

Black Nuclear Chemist Who Isn’t a Feminist and Believes Health Care Is a Privilege Crowned Miss USA - Nothing says equality like the radical notion that women are people until they say something that gets feminists all pissy and hot under the collar.

Unspoken abuse: Mothers who rape their sons - This is just damn terrible. Unspoken abuse indeed.

Scarlett Johansson's divorce case shows why men are scared of being stay-at-home dads - Damn shame. If it had been the other way around it may have actually been noticed by more people.

007 Sir Roger Moore was 'victim of domestic violence' - It's odd to read this. Moore was a cultural icon that represented the epitome of cool, calm, collected, and in control. Such a stark contrast to being a victim of abuse. Also a shame that this didn't come to light until after he died.

The Bombing at a Manchester Ariana Grande Show Was an Attack on Girls and Women - Politicizing a horrible act of violence for the sake of making women and children out to be the ultimate victims of everything? Par for the course.

Ray Spencer Didn't Molest His Kids. So Why Did He Spend 20 Years in Prison for It? - Because people would rather presume the worst faith in men for simply being men while at the same time getting upset and offended when called out on generalizing men.

University students union blocks move to set up Men's Rights group - Once again. Men have to do their own work but when they start to do so they must be blocked. I just wish people would be bold enough to admit that they don't want men to wise up and help themselves for their own sake. It would make things so much easier.

The Hateriarchy - "If the rhetoric routinely thrown at men were directed at any of our ‘minority’ victim groups—women, black people, ethnic minorities, gays—British society would be condemned for its prejudice, bigotry and even persecution."

Star Wars Nerds, Mark Hamill Is One of You - I would pay money to hear him use his Joker voice in a Star Wars movie.

Feminism Is a Discussion, Not a Monolith - A good point and a noble goal. The problem is the "discussion" is often so tainted with starting presumptions, generalizations, and other nonsense that people are discouraged from participating. And that's assuming they are tossed from the discussion outright for daring to have the wrong opinion or being the wrong gender.
If they could drop the dogged belief that individuals like Le Marquand speak for all feminists, they might be surprised to find a conversation that is in some ways familiar.
If feminists could drop the dogged belief that saying #notallfeminists everytime a negative feminist comes along and expecting the rest of us to basically do their work for them by ignoring said negative feminists we would all be better off. Because its not like feminists extend that courtesy to other groups.

Okay I want you to read these two articles about the same subject and tell me if you notice something.

US husband splits from wife who raped him as boy - This is from BBC.

Husband files for separation from former teacher Mary Kay Letourneau - This is CNN.

Notice how each describes the crime in question. Yeah that's what we are dealing with these days. Oh and I can't help but notice the absolute silence from the "It's rape culture!!!!" crowd.


It's that time of year again! Here is a trailer for the upcoming Kirby game for Nintendo Switch.
Which games got you excited?

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Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Harassment: Intervene or Record?

So a few weeks ago I finally got to play through Life is Strange. Its about a teenage girl going to an art school to pursue a career in photography who discovers she has the ability to turn back time. Long story short chaos ensues. With that in mind I will try not to spoil the story of the game but if you don't want to hear specifics then I recommend assuming I will spoil and act accordingly.

One of the big points about this game is that there are several situations where you will be forced to make a major choice that will have some sort of influence on future circumstances. Early on in the game there is one choice that particularly caught my attention. I'll give some basic detail information to set up the scene.

While heading out to meet someone you come around a corner and witness Kate, a fellow student, being harassed by David, the head of campus security. David is being a bit forceful. Not grabbing Kate but getting in her face and using an intimidating voice. She is visibly scared and is backing away. Upon encountering this you are given 2 choices.

Do you interfere and stop David from harassing Kate or do you take a picture of him harassing her?

My initial reaction was to take the photo. Get evidence of him harassing a student so I could turn it in to the principle to hopefully get him fired rather than stopping one incident of bullying just to have it happen again later.

And then Kate sees me and says, "Hope you enjoyed the show. Thanks for nothing.". She is quite disgusted and very upset by the fact that you saw what was happening and didn't take direct action. 

To that I thought was, "I should have been more direct. By standing by even with the intent of collecting evidence, I left her in possible danger.". Utilizing the chief mechanic of the game, rewinding time, I go back and replay the situation and choose to help.

This time while David is messing with Kate I come from around the corner and call him on his harassment. He leaves but lets you know that you the player are now on his radar. Kate thanks you for helping her and tells you it was nice to see him on the defensive for once. Sounds good right? You come to her rescue and stopped the bully.

Until later on when you have a chance to accuse David of harassing students to the principle and he asks for evidence.....

Now to be clear I'm not saying that it was wrong to not get the picture but that was just a moment that clicked for me that if I had taken the photo I could have had a long term solution to stopping David instead of just a one time assist.

I wonder if that is what goes through the heads of people who stop and record rather than intervening in a situation where someone needs help.

Do they think that they are doing a greater good by recording the event rather than directly getting involved?

Maybe they realize they are too scared to intervene but want to do something to help.

It's also possible that they are so plugged into the digital age that their first response to trouble is to be the first to post it online.

There are a lot of things to consider and as a result a lot of different choices to be made.

What would do? Would you intervene? Would you record?

Think about it.

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

One of these things is unlike the other....

So about a month ago Pepsi released an ad on police violence and protest starring Kendall Jenner. In short the ad led to a nightmare that gave several impressions. Such impressions include that a white woman is the center of attention in a world of protesting that constantly sees people of color in the cross hairs of police violence, protests are just big parties, and that everything will be fine if you offer the cops a refreshing drink.

Shortly after the beer company Heineken came up with an ad that takes a different approach. It seeks to bring together people from different walks of life in hopes of fostering some sort of communication rather than the usual form of people on different sides bickering and yelling at each other. Mind you people shared it with sniping comments at Pepsi and Kedall Jenner but let's not look at that let's look at the ad in question.

Its a noble effort and I like what they are trying to go for. Take a look at it.




They have 3 pairs of people, each on a different side of an issue. The pair don't know each other and start by working together on a building project to put together a bar. They take a break during the project where they they sit and talk about their respective backgrounds. After finishing their break they go back putting the bar together. Finally they are offered drinks then are shown a short film of each person in the pair giving their opinions on a specific topic. Here each person sees that their partner is on a different side of a major issue. In these cases the issues were transgender recognition, feminism, and climate change. And then the final challenge is presented.

Each person is given the option of staying and discussing their differences over drinks or leaving the encounter.

I wager they did this multiple times until they got three cases to put together but all three pairs shown here agree to stay and the ad ends with them starting to talk.

I'm gonna get to the point fast and say that something is fishy as fuck here.

The transgender and climate change situations are pretty cut and dry. Either you recognize transgender people as they identify or you do not (for the record I do) and you either agree that climate change is a thing or it isn't (I do).

However feminism isn't as plain and simple as this ad shows. It's presented in a manner that was meant to make it very clear which side is right and which side is wrong.

The anti feminist is a white guy and the feminist is a black woman. The anti feminist gives a generic rundown of thinking feminism is about misandry and so forth. The feminist just vaguely says she is a feminist with bold determination. The anti feminist says that women's place is to have men's children. The feminist is asked if she could be friends with someone that says women's place should be in the home and does not answer.

The anti feminist is given a few chances to give his views on feminism while the feminist is allowed to coast without saying her views on feminism.

His concerns are never addressed. Her views are never described much less challenged.

At the end of the ad he toasts with her saying, "Smash patriarchy."

Its like we are just supposed to assume that being feminist is clearly the right thing to do and if you are not then you are absolutely wrong.

What I'm getting at is that unlike transgender rights and climate change feminism is a complex issue that requires a level of nuance that can't be summed up or skipped over for the sake of a 5 minute ad. Hell you could have made that ad with 3 pairs of people with different views on feminism and it would still lack full nuance.

I hope that ads like this continue and hope that useful discussions take place as well but let's be clear.

This was only a start.

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Monday, May 22, 2017

Mashup - May 22, 2017

Got links?

Entire college cheer-leading squad suspended over mystery letter accusing them of PROSTITUTION hit back at school and claim 'false' claims have led to their harassment - Interesting how false accusations are suddenly serious business when they happen to women.....

Chechnya Reportedly Sending Gay Men To Concentration Camp - "Chechen leader Ramzan Kadyrov has authorized a concentration camp for men suspected of being homosexuals, according to reports by human rights groups. The news comes a week after allegations officials in the region have been detaining and murdering gay men."

YouTube will no longer allow creators to make money until they reach 10,000 views - You may want to think twice before planning on making a living making content on YouTube.

Abduction arrest after missing mother Samantha Baldwin found - That is an awfully sympathetic way to report a woman kidnapping children.

Breaking Their Silence: Victims of Female Genital Mutilation Speak Out - This is an interesting read to get familiar with the different types of female genital cutting.

'I WAS SO ANGRY' Dad claims waiter told him it was ‘inappropriate’ to hug son in restaurant because it made other diners ‘uncomfortable’ - But sure, men have a hard time making their place in parenting because we just don't want anything to do with children and its all our fault right?

Drake Expels Male Student Despite Female Admitting She Forced Him Into Sex Act - Female student rapes male student. Male student gets expelled?

How the Roles Society Assigns Men and Women Factor Into Sexual Abuse in Schools - "The narrative is unchanging – men are stupid, uncouth, abusive, patronising, condescending, intimidating, oppressive, predatory monsters who are just occupying time before their next display of brutality. We don’t see men as individuals, we see them as one collective blight on the face of human decency."

Experience by Arbitrarily Censoring Valuable Comments - In other words its not what is being said but who is saying it that determines what comments get deleted (I'm not totally sold on the use of censorship for this context).

Middlebury Professor Apologizes To Rioters For Inviting Charles Murray - Start a riot and then get an apology as if you are the victim? Yeah I got no idea why college students are developing such a sense of entitlement these days.

Can Having Genital Preferences for Dating Mean You’re Anti-Trans? - I have to thank this article for getting me kicked out of a group on Facebook. When someone accuses you of not reading an article and upon telling them you did they respond by kicking you from the group, you're better off without that group.

Students Demand Power Over Hiring After Job Offer to "Racist" White Professor - Not no but hell now. This is a one way ticket to an environment where students get to pick and choose which ideologies they encounter in college and pretty much insulate themselves from ever coming across opposing ideas. That's a bad thing no matter how you slice it.

LAWSUIT: Cornell refused to investigate female student’s alleged rape of fraternity member - Gee a college refusing the investigate an alleged female against male rape? Maybe we'll finally hear from proponents of rape culture actually bring it up in a gender neutral manner in a context other than defending against criticisms that rape culture is pretty much limited to male against female rape.

Hyd woman kills newborn boy as she wanted daughter - Damn. Fucking horrible.

“Nasty women” and “toxic men” - I'd be more willing to believe this if it wasn't for the fact that collectively blaming men for pretty much everything bad has become a part of so many progressive and feminist frameworks.

My Mexican Husband Was Accused Of Trafficking Our Daughter On A United Flight - Again. Stuff like this keeps happening but we're supposed to believe that there are no institutional forces that negatively impact men. I'm sure so call progressives would trip over themselves to explain how this doesn't equate to sexism against a man much less men.

Report: Woman Who Murdered Her 7 Children, Niece & A Duck Will Not Be Prosecuted - Yes its Milo Y. but frankly who else is talking about this case? A man didn't do it so its not showing up much in mainstream media.

Why Feminism Could Use Some Serious Rebranding - Amen to that.

Toronto For All Ad Campaign Forces Viewers To Confront Myths About Homelessness - "Men, need support. Just don't do it anywhere near me."

Professor says she felt raped by white male student’s paper touting men’s rights - So men being treated equally is the same as raping a woman? Damn.

Bye bye, Bernie: He’s not fit to captain the Democratic ship if he can’t stop chasing the great white male - You know one of these days the Left is going to quit searching for excuses to cover up their own involvement in Clinton losing. Hopefully they do it before the 2018 elections.


Ever wonder how history would be different if Korea were unified? Cody at AltHistoryHub has 2 possible answers (What if the South took over the North and vice versa).


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