Saturday, April 1, 2017

Mashup - April 1, 2017

Got Links?

Woman 'trapped in loveless marriage' after judges refuse divorce - Don't be fooled by the headline. I think she should be able to leave the marriage but notice that this article almost mentions that she has cheated on her husband. She should be able to leave but she shouldn't be able to get a damn thing out of him.

Judge orders Omaha teen who threw baby out window to serve probation, live in group home - Interesting how a society that is supposedly built around oppressing women treats them so leniently for horrible crimes isn't it?

Texas High School Anatomy Teacher Accused of Improper Relationship with Student - I suppose if I had the privilege of banging one of my high school students and most likely getting off with probation I'd be smiling too.

The male suicides: how social perfectionism kills - A long but good read.

Male victims of domestic violence are being failed by the system - "Men who find themselves as victims of domestic violence are often viewed by and made to feel emasculated and weak. We are told to fight back and ridiculed for “accepting” or “allowing” the abuse. "

Maybe the Economy Isn't the Reason Why So Many American Men Aren't Working - Many experts have blamed a poor job market, but new research indicates that an overlooked cause may be poor health.

Maryland schools would teach kids that boys are presumed guilty of rape under approved bill - Yeah this is gonna go well.

This Plymouth University student is fighting for 'men's rights' - In this day and age where people are tripping over themselves to complain that men need to change and here we see efforts by men themselves to help themselves getting blocked. Its almost like men helping themselves for their own sake is an inherently bad thing.

A Northern Arizona University student lost credit on an English paper for using the word “mankind" instead of a gender-neutral alternative. - Its like a cancerous infection.

A gender gap that’s a matter of life and death - Canadian men die earlier than women, and it’s not biological. What’s behind this deadly gap, and why doesn’t anyone seem to care?

Wage Gap Myth Exposed — By Feminists - Its an oldie but since the idea of the wage gap won't die I think its still worth reading. Mind you I don't think the gap is 0. But I do think its a lot more nuanced than, "Women make 22 cents less than men for the same work."

Indian police charge 12 year old with rape for getting an 18 year old girl pregnant - This is just terrible. How can an 18 year old woman have sex with a 12 year old boy and the boy get charged with rape? Might have something to do with the fact that women's advocates protested against and defeated an attempt to make rape laws gender neutral. Its almost like they don't want women that do bad things to be held responsible for their actions....

Gender Pundit Argues Feminism Is Only Cure For Misandry; Proves The Opposite - It takes a special kind of disregard for men to say some stuff like this. She is basically using misandry to argue that misandry isn't that bad and of course fall back on "but women have it worse". This is seriously "I'm not racist thinking whites are smarter than blacks, its fact!" territory.

Be mindful of who you engage with. Sticking to your own
and preaching to your choir won't cut it.

Stay Frosty!!!

Monday, March 27, 2017

A Man's Modesty. A Man's Respect. A Man's Voice.

You are likely familiar with the common claim that the male is the default. 

The presumption that when it comes to the world at large, in terms of gender, things are supposedly set up, interacted with, and even thought of from a male perspective. This leads to the idea that if its not male it won't be considered or it wont be considered as much. And while there are some valid uses of this observation there some places where it simply doesn't apply no matter how badly someone wants it to.

I came across this a few weeks ago and it got my gears turning.

Robert Underhill, the writer of this article goes straight to the head of the problem early on:
The relative male-female parity amongst physician ranks generally affords both men and women with sufficient options.  The problem for men is lack of options at the nursing and tech level, where most intimate care occurs.
I don't know about any other guys but I have to say that yes I do notice that when it comes to intimate men are not given a lot of options and its just assumed guys are okay with women performing those functions. In fact I would go as far as to say that this actually goes in the territory of casting men as a monolith. But what is at the heart of these assumptions and double standards? Modesty. Or an assumed lack thereof.

If you look at a lot of pieces and articles about why men don't go to the doctor you'll see that a lot of them start and finish with something to the effect of, "Men think that proper medical care is a sign of weakness. blahblahpatriarchyblahtheydontrespectwomenblahblahtheythinkmedicalcareiswomanly". Point being there is often an effort to either blame men for not going to the doctor or pretend that its not an issue (and probably a few cases of making it about women if you look hard enough).

Now to be clear I'm not saying men have zero responsibility for their medical care. What I am saying is that if this were an issue like, let's say why there aren't many female CEOs, I bet you wouldn't stop at, "There aren't that many female CEOs because women don't put in the work." right? We know there are external factors at work that need to be addressed in order to foster the development of female CEOs. Why can't the same be done for men? Here is what Underhill had to say,
Partly because it is the elephant in the room that the medical world does not want to discuss and partly because men are afraid to speak up.  Why won’t the medical world acknowledge the issue?  Because they’d then be obligated to do something about it.  Why won’t men speak up?  Because all too often when he does he gets “you don’t have anything I haven’t seen”, “don’t be silly”, or “we’re all professionals here”.
I have to say I've had this happen a few times when dealing with female nurses and just like any insidious gender expectations I just rolled with it because hey a "real man" wouldn't have a problem with a woman checking his intimate body parts right? Hell he should want he to get a look at them. Well the problem is doing so basically guarantees that the issue will continue unquestioned.

Yeah that's not gonna fly with me anymore. If something doesn't feel right I say so. If I'd rather talk to or be handled by a guy I speak up.

Even if the clinic doesn't have any male staff the very least they can do if they have any respect for you as a man and a person is to acknowledge your discomfort and hesitation and try to earn your trust.

I don't think its an intentional fault of nursing staff to think that men just don't have a sense of modesty. In fact nursing staff gets informed of this from the same source that nearly everyone else does.

Traditional gender roles.

You know those roles that say men are fearless, never uncomfortable, never are embarrassed about anything, and never need a helping hand. 

Just like with other people that are working their way through fighting off the old gender roles men can certainly use a helping hand.
What can you do to ease the embarrassment, or at least not make it worse?  Ask him if he’d prefer your male co-worker do the intimate procedure.  Knock and ask if it is OK to enter the room.  Close the door or pull the curtain.  Kick anyone out that doesn’t need to be there; don’t turn it into a spectator sport.  Ask for an OK before bringing a student into the room and properly introduce them, including what exactly they are.  Use a sheet to keep the genitals covered before you pull the gown up to examine the abdomen.  Ask before lifting the gown to check the catheter.  Basically give him the same consideration you’d want your Dad, brother, husband, boyfriend, or son given in the same circumstance.
And gentleman one more word of advice.

In the event that you find yourself wanting that helping hand don't be scared to ask. If someone violates your space speak up. If you'd rather have a guy work on something or examine something for you, don't be silent about it. Remember this one thing:


Sunday, March 26, 2017

Mashup - March 26, 2017

Got Links?

Battle Of The Boobs - Damn shame that some portions of feminism seem to be so preoccupied with infighting and dominance. The movement has done a lot of good.

5 Ways The MRA Indoctrinates New Members With Cult Tactics - More like, "5 Ways To Show You Don't Know What The MRM Is About".

Alan DeSousa barred from running for federal Liberals, no reason given - When you absolutely positively want to prove that you are pro equality and need to make sure only a woman wins. Accept no substitutes.

Female rapes disabled student then gets him expelled, university fires his dad - I have always found it odd that the "believe the victim" and "OMG Rape Culture!!!" crowds are awfully silent when cases like this come around.

Student Sues Pennsylvania School Over Transgender Policy - After Obama-era regulations were rolled back, it is up to the states to interpret anti-discrimination laws when deciding how students can use school facilities.

Unwanted child is no grounds to sue mum for lying about taking the pill: court - So its okay for a woman to lie about being on the pill but its a crime for a man to take his condom off during sex? Good to know.

Karen Straughan tackles a one-sided CBC interview about men’s rights - Okay so the best person to interview about a documentary about the men's rights movie isn't the person who made the movie, members of the men's rights movement, or at least someone who has seen the film. No the best person for that is someone who is opposed to the MRM and has most likely never seen the film. I tell you what I'm glad "The Red Pill" documentary came along because it has show plain as day that feminists have a pretty irrational hatred and fear of the MRM. They are willing to straight up lie about the movie in order to stop people from seeing it. They are scared.

Battered Men: The Hidden Hurt - Tell me again about men don't face any institutional oppressions. Tell me about how domestic violence protections support men equally to women. Tell me how men would get help only if they asked.

‘Raped Black Male’ talks survival in new memoir - The 32-year-old inner city science fiction writer’s work took an unexpected turn when he decided his sixth book, Raped Black Male would be a memoir about his darkest experiences of being sexually abused as a child.

Never played a Final Fantasy game before? Here's some advice 
on picking a title to start with by SuperButterBuns

Sunday, March 5, 2017

Weekly Mashup - March 5, 2017

Hi folks. I'm still alive and kicking. Haven't posted in a while but I want you to know that I am still clawing my way back up.

'I know they are going to die.' This foster father takes in only terminally ill children - Leading off with this because its amazing how rarely men doing good work actually gets the spotlight. If this guy had killed a foster child he would have been front page news all over the country.

Male Students Losing Everything On Mere Accusation - My money says is it will take a woman being punished for a crime after it's been determined there wasn't enough evidence to charge her with said crime before this is acknowledged.

Stop Pretending Melania Trump Is A Victim - Yeah if we could stop pretending Melania is a victim of abuse for a chance to trash and insult Donald that would be great. If the people saying this shit had actual evidence they would actually use it. Rest assured they aren't in this to help Melania they just want to take shots at Donald.

Amherst Student Expelled for Sexual Misconduct Can’t Defend Himself—It Would ‘Impose Psychological Trauma’ on Accuser - This is scary. The guy was blocked from defending himself because it would traumatize the accuser, and then he was punished.

A horribly bullied teen committed suicide. Now his former Dairy Queen boss has been charged with involuntary manslaughter - To hell with this bully.

ECU alum serves as advocate for sextrafficking victims - "Restore One is a ministry centered on providing recovery resources for male survivors of domestic minor sex trafficking (DMST) who are between the ages of 12 and 18. The main goal of the organization is to give the boys a shelter where they can grow together in a community."

Teacher, 70, Forced to Retire After Displaying Confederate Flag During Civil War Lesson - I don't think it makes sense to try to fire a teach for hanging the Confederate flag in the specific context of teaching history. Yes the flag is a symbol of racism but kids need to learn what it is.

Toxic masculinity: Will the 'war on men' only backfire? - Of course it will. Its going to backfire because instead of uniting around building everyone up people are uniting around tearing down men.

Unemployment Makes Men in Ukraine, Belarus, Moldova Vulnerable to Human Trafficking - “The number of men who are falling prey to traffickers in the region may be significantly higher than reported, as many do not ask for assistance,” said Manfred Profazi, Chief of the IOM Mission in Ukraine. “The aim of the research was to better understand the situation with trafficking in men in Ukraine, Belarus and Moldova, in order to enhance their response to the issue.”

Justice System Discrimination and the Myth That Sexism Against Men Isn’t “Institutional” - So if sexism against men doesn't exist because its not institutional but there is proof of institutional mistreatment of men then what does that mean?

Have a good week people!

Sunday, January 29, 2017

Weekly Mashup - January 29, 2017

You may have noticed that I did not get to do a Weekly Mashup post last week. Unfortunately i was out of town on business and was not able to make one so you may notice that things I link here may be more than a week old. 

How author Timothy Tyson found the woman at the center of the Emmett Till case - Im gonna be frank. This one pisses me off big time. That woman's lies played vital role in the murder of an innocent black boy. What pisses me off even more is that everyone seems to want to make this white v black as if gender didn't play a role. 

Harvard dean chickens out of blacklisting male-only club members on eve of risky faculty vote - So maybe, just maybe, cooler heads will prevail and it will be realized that targeting male only organizations isn't such a great idea? I remember reading about this a while back where female students were on board with it....until they found out that female only organizations would also get caught up in this. Apparently punishing members of male only groups is progress but punishing members of female only groups is taking it too far.

How to Talk About Sexism in the Classroom - Its going to be hard to combat sexism in the classroom when you define sexism as only being able to happen to girls/women.

'Possessive' girl cuts off boyfriend's privates in Madhya Pradesh - What bothers me almost as much as the act of violence itself is the fact that because this was an act of female against male violence it won't get much notice or traction. And even pointing that fact out is often taken as somehow harming female victims.

How Vital Are Women? This Town Found Out as They Left to March - Nothing says progress towards gender equality like portraying men as incompetent oafs that can't survive without the women in their lives who are so burdened by having to do everything at home AND having to go out and fight for their rights. But articles like this get written when gender equality is pretty much defined as making sure women don't get the short end of the stick.

A Young Feminist’s Compassionate View of Men - Could it be that we are seeing a dawn of a new feminism where it becomes possible to acknowledge the plights of males without constantly drowning it out when pleas that women have it worse or reframing said plights as being really being something that harms women and men are just suffering some side effects or collateral damage. I really hope so but considering how other feminists have treated Cassie Jaye and her movie I'm not sure. Here is another link about Jaye's film "The Red Pill". Oh and just to be clear no this movie has nothing to do with the so called Red Pill movement.

Female, 17, charged with knife-point rape of 19-year-old man - 1) I hope that guy is doing okay and gets the help and support he needs. 2) I hope this rapist is held responsible for her actions and goes away for her crime. 3) I hope that we start seeing more coverage of crimes like this. Did you notice that it was actually called rape and not "sexual affair" or some other bullshit to avoid calling a female a rapist?

Rich of ReviewTechUSA responds to and questions Ashely Judd's recent remarks about attacking women for sport in video games.

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Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Sounds like making excuses to me

Like most people who pay attention to gender related topics you probably recall the Steubenville rape case. To give a brief summary several members of a high school football team in the city of Steubenville, OH raped a girl. Their method was to take advantage of a girl that was unable to consent (I believe she was passed out drunk) and not only did they take turns raping her but they recorded it. 

During the trial, after the guilty verdict, and even after the sentences were handed out there was a fairly large public outcry....for the rapists.

Pleas that they were good people. Claims that they had bright futures ahead of them. All in all people who were trying to downplay the horrible crime they committed and even trying to frame the issue as if they were the victims of some tragic circumstance.

This sort of treatment is frequently (and correctly) pointed out when the criminals are male. But I find it odd that when the criminal is female and the same attempt at downplaying happens it tends to slide under the radar of people who have a problem with it when it happens for male criminals.

This is Elaine B. Goodman. Elaine raped an under age boy, her daughter's boyfriend in fact. When she pled guilty to the crime she faced up to 15 years in prison. Now mind you I think 15 years may be a bit overkill but there is no doubt in my mind that this woman deserved hard time for what she did. She committed one of the worst crimes of all on top of the fact that she committed it against a child. But the judge presiding over the case, Robert B. Young, felt otherwise and sentenced her to two years probation.

According to Young, "This came out of the blue,". While acknowledging that a terrible thing happened and people were affect he seems to have concluded that "...incarceration is not the answer."

It would be easy to fly into a rage and go on about gender flips but calm is needed here.

Sentencing like this is why people are able to see that when it comes to justice for sex crimes its not uniform. There is no "sex crimes are taken seriously no matter who the victim is or who the perp is". 

When a male criminal is given a light sentence for a major crime it becomes a national outrage as it should. Saying that he is a pillar of the community or that he has a bright future ahead of him or that he contributes to society would fall of deaf ears because we all know that past or even the potential of future contributions do not make up for committing a horrible crime. 

So why is it acceptable for women?

Simple. Crimes committed by women, especially those committed against males, are seen as lesser crimes. There is a level of compassion, empathy, and sympathy that is reserved for women that men are simply denied.

Because of this women are given slack in ways that would spark outrage if extended to men.

Cases like this don't help. The judge basically said that yes she did something terrible but she doesn't deserve to be held responsible for it or to be punished for it. What kind of follow through is that?

I know it can be counter productive to just rant and rave about situations like this but frankly using those rants as a way to avoid addressing this is even more counter productive because it perpetuates a female privilege and allows it to continue unchallenged.

For all the talk of treating people of all genders equally you would think that this would be acknowledged by more people.

Stay Frosty!

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Weekly Mashup - Resurrection Style

How goes it folks? This isn't a fully fleshed out post on a single topic but its a return of the Weekly Mashup posts that I used to do in the past. A lot has been happening and I wanted to at least get some thoughts out on recent happenings.

Proud Single Mom January Jones: Father Figure Would Be Toxic For My Son - This is what happens when you turn your child into a political statement. Don't turn your child into a political statement. Frankly it sounds like Jones has had some bad experiences with guys and concluded that all men are bad but doesn't want to come out and say that all men are bad when it comes to parenting and influencing children.

No Boys Allowed: The New Rule of Co-Working Spaces - After seeing clubs like this I have pretty much decided that there is nothing wrong with the mere existence of male only spaces and clubs.

Politico’s misleading article on Betsy DeVos and campus sexual assault - Donating to a organization that supports due process is not the same as donating to an organization that wants to raise the burden of proof on sexual assault victims. Trying to pass off the former as the latter that is an appeal to emotion in order to smear people or ideas you don't like. Kinda like when the recording industry first started fighting against piracy one of their tactics was to lump downloading music in with child porn.

Liberals are drunk on a political poison called intersectionality - The concept of intersectionality is an analytical tool meant to account for the various oppressions and non oppressions that an individual may have due to having several identities. Unfortunately liberals have turned it into a bludgeon and silencing tool to attack people who don't fully agree with them on every topic.

Towards a feminist politics of "male survivorship" - Do you think that this could be a sign that not only feminists are starting to see how not only male victims but males in general are treated by feminism but also a sign that feminism itself will one day actually be as inclusive of men as it frequently brands itself as being but is not in practice? There is hope that one day all will be well.

Liana K on self esteem, outrage, and compassion.

Take the time to mill these links around in your mind and don't be scared to share a few of your own if you have them.

See you next week!