Tuesday, July 7, 2015

So why only one charge?

I'm sure you've already seen it but in case you haven't video evidence has come up of Florida State University quarterback De'Andre Johnson getting into an argument with a woman at a bar.

After the two bumped into each other they exchanged words and those words culminated in the woman punching Johnson after which Johnson punched her back.

Now of course violence is wrong and we should avoid it when possible. But this is not a perfect world so it does happen.

With that in mind I don't support violence but at the same time I can't help but notice the resulting outcome.

Johnson has been charged with battery, indefinitely suspended from the football team and according to his attorney, "He is currently participating in community service, and faith-based programs focused on battered women, substance abuse, and the empowerment of children.". 

The woman.......yeah.......

There is no question that Johnson played a part in this and has to be held accountable and responsible for the role he played and he certainly went overboard in his response. However my questions are the same.

If "violence is wrong, no matter the gender" as people say then why is it when a man and woman are mutually violent only the man is held responsible?

If "violence is wrong, no matter the gender" as people say then why is it when a man and woman are mutually violent the story is almost always retold as "man hits woman"?

If "violence is wrong, no matter the gender" as people say then why is it when a man and woman are mutually violent the woman is treated as a totally innocent victim?

Spare me the attempts at saying I support violence against women because I don't. What I want to know is if violence is bad all about why is it that only men are held responsible for it.

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Burying it deeper and deeper...

So Axe deodorant appears to be at it again.

If you've ever seen an ad for Axe then you've most likely seen a desperate appeal to traditional masculinity. You know the "you're only it for sex with women" motivation that seems to be the only reason a man would clean his body type of masculinity. Convince boys and men that if they hope to have any sort of sexual contact with women they must buy Axe products.

Well there was that one time during the 2014 Super Bowl but that is a distant memory it seems.

This time they have released an ad with a picture of a woman trying on bikinis with a guy sitting in a chair with brown hair and two blonde braids with the caption:
"If you help her choose the clothes someone else will tear, she's seeing you with braids"
At the bottom there's the line, "Stop being a friend and start being a man." and there is even a www.menwithbraids.com.mx (thankfully its not an actual site) URL.

Its 2015 and we still have companies selling products to men on the premise of it getting them sexual attention with women?

Its 2015 and we still believe that a male has to be either a man or a friend to women?

Its 2015 and we still tell a guy that if he isn't trying to get with a woman, he is a woman?
This is all wrong. This is the kind of stuff that supports that nasty mentality that if a guy acts a certain way and uses certain products he will be romantically successful and to do otherwise means to be a failure at manhood.

That kind of thinking leads to pain. Pain for everyone involved but mainly for the guys that will be led astray by it.

Methods of advertising that depends on old and dangerous gender roles need to die.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Domestic Violence Pop Quiz

1. When the video of Ray Rice knocking Janay out was made public what was your initial reaction?

Most people expressed outrage and precious few tried to say he was justified.

2. Ray J's girlfriend, Princess Love, has been arrested for allegedly beating him so badly she cracked three ribs and tore his ACL. What's your initial reaction?

Are you upset that a man was beaten up by his lover?

Are you upset that a woman committed an act of violence against her lover?

Are you wanting to know what Ray J was doing (in hopes of figuring out "what did he to do make her attack him")?

Are you ready to call for whatever company or industry she works in to kick her out on butt?

I think it goes without saying that if she did attack him she needs to be held responsible for her actions and needs to learn not to be so violent and most importantly Ray J needs whatever help he can get to make sure this doesn't happen again.

But more importantly, what was your first thought after reading about this?

Sound off in the comments!

(Also tip of my Fro to Mark Greene)