Friday, January 29, 2010
Pharoahe Monch - Simon Says
Omarion - Touch
Sade - The Moon and The Sky
This would be my new (to me) find. I knew Sade but never really got into her music. Truthfully I can't tell you the name of any of her songs off the top of my head. But by the sound of this she might be a blend of R&B and Enya. I will have to listen to more of her.
Well until the end of February. (And dammit that means Valentine's Day. I hate that day.)
Back when I was in high school there was this one song on the radio I like. It had a nice sounding beat...well the little that I was able to catch of it. For some odd reason it seemed like the only time I would come across it was in the last 10 seconds or so. Meaning no lyrics and only the very end of the beat. I spent a long time trying to ID this song but had no luck and after some time I eventually gave up. Now 14 years later I was watching a show on MTV called "The Buried Life" (its a show about 4 guys who have a list of things to do before they die and for each one they do they help a random person do the same) and this song came up. This time I heard enough of the lyrics to search and Vola!!!! Without further adu I present you "Your Woman" by White Town.
Truthfully the song isn't all that great but as one who hates to be beaten by curiosity I've A LOT of satisfaction out of identifying this song.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Imagine going about your life in a normal fashion. You work as a cleaner at a college at night after classes. After getting off you pick up your mom (who lives next door) from her job at a bakery. You come home to your husband and two daughters. The next morning you see your kids off to school and your husband off to work and shortly after you collapse in the kitchen with severe abdominal pain. After going to the Emergency Room and waiting far too long to be seen you get the news of your life. At the age of 23 you are diagnosed with terminal ovarian and have only months to live. What do you do with your remaining time?
That is the question that is set before Ann in this film by Isabel Coixet.
Predating the Bucket List (starring Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson) by a few years the events of this movie are Ann's answer to that question. The next day after receiving her diagnosis she begins to make a list of things she wants to do before she dies.
Among her many tasks to cover are getting her husband to meet a new woman (this one made me sad), preparing a series of birthday messages for her daughters (one every year until they turn 18), and visiting her father who is in prison (for murder). Even though Ann also does some morally questionable things (namely she hides her diagnosis from her family and has an affair) I still feel for her and her situation. I mean who would not be tempted to do immoral things if they knew they were about to die soon? Have to admit I would.
I won't give the full ending away but I think you should give this at least one viewing despite it being one of those movies that you kinda have to be in the mood to watch.
This made me think when I first saw it a few years ago and again when watching tonight about the things I would like to do before I die.
Travel outside the country - At 29 years old all the traveling I've ever has been in 5 of the fifty states in the US and that's it. Not much moving around as you can see. Living such a limited life in terms of travel I often dream about going to different places just to see them with my own eyes. And more importantly I want to visit those places just to satisfy my curiosity.
Independence - After I finished high school I went away to college for four years but ran out of money. I bounced around for a few months but in early 2004 my mom's cancer began its final stages and she required constant care. With my younger sister still in high school and my dad working I was the only option. On that note I returned home. She passed away 2 months later and I've been stuck here ever since. Nearly 30 years old and I still live at home. While there are valid reasons (namely a close to deadend job and a dad that is worse with money that a thief) as far as I'm concerned I'm failing at life. Before I take my last breath I'd like to know what real true independence feels like.
Get around to taking a stab at Love and Sex - I don't travel a lot and still live at home so I guess it only makes sense that I have no experience in love and sex. At first this desire was mainly based in playing out my gender role as a boy/man but its just plain curiosity now. I've never been in a relationship with another person. I wonder what it would be like to have such companionship. To have someone I can share anything with. Someone I totally breakdown in front of (mind you I don't break down but that is another story for another day) and not worry about being judged. And then there is the sex. I'm not just talking the strict physical feeling of sex I talking about the contact with another person on a physical, emotional, and who knows what other levels.
So many frontiers to explore, and an unknown about of time to explore them. By chance are there any things you would like to do before you die?*
As an added bonus I wanted to thrown in one of the songs used in the soundtrack. Its a slow somber song that really fits the mood of the movie. Enjoy.
Alpha - Sometime Later
* - You'll notice that even though unlike my first Theater Thursday post this one is about a movie that has been released I didn't just do a straight review. I often find that a review of a movie, while thorough, doesn't seem to get me to talk as much as directly asking questions about said movie. So chances are when I'm talking about a movie that is already out for viewing I won't just do a review of it but will more than likely end these posts with a question to spark conversation.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Despite the words some of the folks here are putting in my mouth I never said that the damage Blige did to her husband was the same as what Brown did to Rihanna. I mentioned Brown/Rihanna on a count of Blige asking Issacs if he was going to "Chris Brown" her (yeah she used his name as a verb synonymous with attack/abuse but I'm the one trying to minimalize/trivialize what happened to Rihanna). While I never said that the damage was the same I can understand people thinking I was trying to say that.
What I was trying to talk about was the gendered differences in how at least the mainstream media talks about violence. Yes m vs f violence happens more often and people are quick to chime in with that and things like "yeah its bad but its not the same context" and leave it at that. What they are missing (intentionally or not I'm not sure) is that bringing up numbers and so-called context has nothing to do with the obviously gendered method of how its covered or not covered.
When its m vs f violence for the most part the mainstream media lays into him. Yes there are those that will try to defend said man but mostly he is raked over the coals. However on the other hand when its f vs m violence it seems that the mainstream media seems to try to gloss it over with a "what did he do to make her do it" or "its not a big deal" approach. This approach undermines those male victims, gives justification to such violence, and keeps those women from being stopped/punished/treated.
One thing Renee has pointed out is that there is a victim culture when it comes to violence. Society tells us victims deserve to get attacked and/or make excuses to justify the attacker's actions. What I often see is that while people are quick to point that out when the violence if m vs f they this point rarely comes up when its the other way around.
So you can try to bring up context, damage, fear for life, intent or anything else you want. None of that answers the question of why Blige, as a survivor of abuse that has spoken out on it, attacked her husband unchallenged and hardly anyone said anything. (Oh and not only that but as a show of how people react to f vs m violence after she hit him HE was kicked out and she was escorted away.) I stand by my original point that violence will never truly be taken seriously if people continue to run a gender check on the attacker/target before deciding how serious to get about it.
I guess its a tell that I expected a firestorm but didn't get the one expected.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
I know it may be hard to see the reality of that title but its true. No matter how serious of a crime someone in prison may have committed (not to mention the ones that are falsely imprisoned) simply put they do not deserve to be violated in one of the worst ways possible. Yet it is common place to not just wish that someone would be raped in prison but to actually pass off being raped in prison as a joke (I'm reminded of the dream sequence in the movie Office Space where the characters were sentenced to "20 years of federal pound me in the ass prison"). Well someone is trying to do something about it.
Just Detention International is an organization that is dedicated to ending the sexual abuse/assault of detainees all across the world. From the homepage:
When the government takes away someone’s freedom, it has a responsibility to protect that person’s safety. All inmates have the right be treated with dignity. No matter what crime someone has committed, sexual violence must never be part of the penalty.
Even if those people have committed the heinous crime of murder those men and women are still human beings and do not deserve to be raped simply because they committed that crime.
They are already in prison as punishment for the crime and this de facto extra punishment is not right. It is a gross violation of human rights when a blind eye is turned to prisoner being treated in such a manner by shrugging it off as "they deserve it for what they did". The judge didn't actually sentence the guy that robbed* a bank to 20 years and a weekly rape session.
Hopefully this organization will help encourage some serious prison reform.
* - I don't care if the crime in question was rape the rapist still does not deserve to raped on top of the imprisonment. That is "Eye for an Eye" territory and that is dangerous turf (unless you have convinced yourself that rape is the only crime that should be punished in such a way).
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
When alone you are chocolate in its most tasteful state
When Ghirardelli fills your center with mint it is a wondrous treat
When coating a Resse Cup it is hard to find a better mate
When on a pretzel you create the perfect blend of salty and sweet
To consume you is to consume all that is good
To savor you is to savor a world where nothing is amiss
To taste you is to taste godhood
To partake of you is partake of bliss
Taking you into my mouth takes me to a place
Where my anger, sadness, and confusion can be unfurled
Taking you into my mouth opens me to your goodness and grace
And takes me to a peaceful and dream-like world
Yes it is like that. I enjoy dark chocolate so much that I really just took about an hour thinking of a love poem to it. For as long as I can recall I have been a fan of it and cannot get enough of it. Most people I know simply can't handle the fact that unlike other chocolates dark is not loaded up with milk to make it creamy or sugar to make it sweet. Too bad for them I say. I used to try to justify my taste for it by reminding myself that not only is it not as harmful as other chocolates but that it does actually help cholesterol in small servings but considering how much of it I can consume I stopped doing that ages ago.
I am not above trying just about anything with dark chocolate in it or on it. A few days ago I came across this candy shop that sold dark chocolate covered pretzels...and they were 1/2 off (this shop also had candy bars that were pieces of crystallized ginger dipped in dark chocolate...that was some goodness). Not the bagged ones made by like Snyders or something that would be on the shelf at WalMart and full preservatives I'm talking about the ones that are in large glass jars and are sold by the pound. I seriously had to limit myself to about a pound of them and they didn't even make it through the next night. After buying them I joked to myself that I would probably do hard narcotics if they were laced with dark chocolate (not the other way around mind you, who am I kidding I probably would do dark chocolate laced with hard narcotics too).
This is why you will very rarely if ever see me use it in my Weekly Menu posts. I'd precede to eat all of it, whatever it is, upon completion. Hell I don't even keep any in the house. That stuff is on a strict buy and consume immediately basis.
But all joking aide over the years I've actually made progress in cutting down my sweetness consumption but dark chocolate is one of those things that I just can't quit. And despite this post most part I have it under control but I highly doubt that short of hypnosis or suffering a traumatic experience involving the stuff I will ever stop enjoying its sweet, dark, decadence. Reminds me its Girl Scout Cookie time. Thin Mints for the win.
So what's your thoughts on dark chocolate? Yes, No, Maybe so?
Mirko Fischer, a businessman, is suing British Airways for sexist practices. The practice in question?
...a policy that bans male passengers from sitting next to children they don't know - even if the child's parents are on the same flight.
By the policy a part of pre-flight is for the cabin crew to patrol the aisles to make sure that any children that are flying alone or are not seated next to their parents are not seated next to a male strangers. If such an arrangement is found the man will be "asked" to move to another seat. However the plane will not take off until he does so. In Fischer's case he and his pregnant wife were on a plane in which each row has three seats. His wife had taken the window seat thinking it would be more spacious which left him sitting between his wife and a 12yr old boy.
Now it would be one thing if it was a blanket policy against any strange adult but that is not the case. For some reason this policy specifically classifies only strange men as threats that must be removed. Not only that but with the policy being in such a way that take off is actually held off until said man moves the onus is on him to "act right" and refusal to do so will lead to the other passengers blaming him for the delay in flight. Nice way to end run around that whole fair treatment thing by putting the blame on the victim's shoulders. So when Mirko told the flight attendant that confronted him that he was not going to move because his wife was pregnant the flight attendant played the trump card by raising his voice to say that the flight would not take off until he moved.
It doesn't take much effort to realize that this is a part of the stereotype that us men are just sex crazed beasts that will do anything to get next to our next victim targeted for violation. Now I'm sure a lot of people are going to try to defend such a sexist policy by saying that a lot of child abuse is committed by men. Well according to Fischer (in the UK at least):
'Furthermore statistically children are far more likely to be abused by a member of their family. Does that mean that BA are going to ban children sitting next to their own parents?'And besides just because the majority of rape is committed by men does not mean that the majority of men are rapists.
Next the defender will move onto passing it off as being "in the best interests of the children". Now don't get me wrong the safety of the children is so important (and if they are flying alone then their safety is important) but why not have a few seats near where the flight attendants are seated reserved for them? That way there is no one near them except for the flight crew. If safety of the children is the reason for such wouldn't it make sense to do something to protect them from all risks instead of instating a clearly misandrist policy as assuming that any and all strange men are threats to them?
I recall a time when I read about policies like this on an MRA site and thought they were crazy. No one would actually pass a policy like this. I have been proven wrong.
Frankly I hope this guy cleans British Airways' clock to the turn of a healthy sum for I am sure the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children could use the extra funds (as long as they don't base their efforts on such sexist assumptions).
As long as people hold onto these old and damaging stereotypes and assumptions we as a human race will never achieve equality.
This time around I was inspired to cook this because of a minor OCD tendency that kicks in every so often about exact proportions. Most of the time for breakfast I just cook 8 or 10 (for a 4 or 5 day work week) scrambled eggs and scoop them out of a collective container as the week passes. Well when you do that your portions are nowhere near even and this time I wanted to do something about it.
1 9oz pkg of fresh spinach
8 slices of turkey bacon
Cheese to go on top
First I pan fried the spinach in a bit oil. If you cover the pan it will cook pretty fast since spinach is mostly water. The bit of oil is to prevent sticking but for the most part the spinach will steam itself. I know that 9oz pack looks pretty big but by the time I finished I barely had enough to cover the bottom of my pan (about a 7x7in square pan). Speaking of pan go ahead and spray/grease the bottom of the pan and place the spinach in the bottom of it and set it aside (go ahead and preheat the over to about 350). Next I cooked the turkey bacon as directed and cut each piece in half (giving you 16 pieces). Now the pan I used is a perfect square so what I did was place four pieces in each of the four quarters of the pan on top of the spinach. In a large bowl scramble the eggs and simply pour them over the bacon and spinach. Sprinkle some cheese on top and place in the over for about 15 min. or until you can tilt the pan and eggs don't shift with the tilt.
As you can see this is pretty much a baked omelet so feel free to use whatever ingredients you would used in an omelet you would cook in a frying pan. Four perfect servings for bagels to make sandwiches out of.
Alright this was more of an emergency cooking. A few days before I had taken a bag of frozen boneless skinless chicken breasts out to thaw for cooking but then got lazy and didn't want to cook them during the work week. Well thankfully it was scrotum shivering cold last week so they kept very well. This past Saturday the time had come to cook them or toss them on Sunday. I chose to cook them. But thank goodness I had a crockpot so I could set and forget.
1 bag of boneless skinless chicken breasts, washed and cleaned
1 bag of baby carrots
2 pkgs of sliced mushrooms
1 bottle of marinade
1 pkg of frozen steamer bag peas
2 bags of boiling bag rice
2 cloves of garlic, peeled and chooped
I cleaned the chicken and cut it into strips. Next I made layers of chicken, mushrooms, and carrots alternating til I ran out (but I recommend keeping the carrots near the bottom so they cook well) and added a bit of garlic on each layer as well. From there I poured in bottle of marinade, the entire bottle and even rinsed it out with water and poured that in too. I used one from the KC Masterpiece line called "Garlic Basalmic". It was on sale (because it was a new item and they wanted people to try it or it was an old item and it was marked down to get rid of it I don't know but I have to say I like it) so I decided to give it a try. Now you're notice I used a marinade and not an actual sauce. For the most part marinades don't have as strong a flavor as sauces so I added the entire bottle. If I had been using a sauce like say BBQ sauce I would not have used the entire bottle.
From there I turned it up to high and let it cook for about 6 hours. Now you'll notice that there is a lot of liquid and space in the crockpot after that stuff cooks. That is the room the peas and rice are about to occupy. Boil the rice and microwave the peas and add them to the pot. You'll see that the rice will absorb a lot of the water in the pot.
Til next time.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
My previous boss was very hands on in his running of out department. He was the typed that got directly into the mix and was doing things as well as delegating responsibility. This man had no problem hunkering down and doing the everyday work that my coworkers and I handled. Imagine if you will you are playing Modern Warfare and you are tasked with clearing out a group of enemies that are holed up in a building across the street. My former boss would pick up a gun and charge into the building with the squad of marines to meet the enemy head on. In the thick of combat he would be.
My current boss on the other hand appears to operate in a not so direct way. He seems to be the Starcraft type in which he would is not so hands on in his managing style. Imagine the same scenario of the enemies holed up across the street. This guy would be the one that would delegate a squad of marines to go clear out the building and to check in afterwards. He would make sure the job got done but he would not be the one to direction perform the task.
RTS (real time strategy) vs. FPS (first person shooter). Direct vs. indirect. Two managing styles.
Is it odd that I can relate video games to the way my bosses perform?
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Along with other things I will be adding to my corner over time (and inspired by The Movie Blog, a recent addition to my blog roll) I want to take some time every other Thursday (I went with that because I didn't want to use "Movie Monday" and my schedule is a bit hectic to commit to a "Film Friday") and do a post on movies. Not necessarily new movies mind you like the word theater implies. These posts will be dedicated to movies old and new, good and bad, and pretty and ugly. I'm sure there are enough movies for me to talk about at least one every other Thursday. But let's set the record straight that I don't fancy myself as an know all be all repository of film knowledge. If you think of a movie that I may not have seen (and how would you know if I have or not if you don't mention it) by all means recommend it. I may watch it and/or perhaps do a future post on it.
Well to kick things off this week I want to talk about one of the movies I am most looking forward to this year, "Prince of Persia: The Sands of Time".
Based on the first installment of a video game trilogy from one game console generation ago (Playstation 2, Gamecube, and XBox) Jerry Bruckhiemer has taken the reigns to bring this great game to the big screen.
For those who don't know Prince of Peria: Sands of Time is actually a revival of an older franchise of video games that dates back almost 20 years.
The Sands of Time are just as the name says, they are sands that grant one the power to transcend time. As is true with any object that holds great power there will be people that want that great power and will destroy nations to obtain it. And after the smoke clears and the prize is claimed SOMEONE will unleash it and see the true power the object holds. Chaos ensues.
Now I know its not the most original plot but if the action from the game translates well to the big screen then I think viewers will be in for a real treat. You see in Sands of Time there are a lot of acrobatics and swordplay which are good material for Bruckhiemer to draw from (I mean look at what he did for the Pirates of the Caribbean series). However its not all sunshine and rainbows.
If you can't tell from the movie poster pic above that is Jake Gyllenhaal in the lead role of The Prince. (In this movie his name is Dastan but in the video game his name is never given, which is an easy feat considering there are only 5 people in whole game with spoken lines and 2 of them die without saying much.) See the problem? Don't get me wrong Mr. Gyllenhaal is not a bad looking guy or anything but he really doesn't look Persian to me.
Like the whitewashing that the live action Avatar: The Last Airbender film due this year is getting I'm a bit bothered about how the race (and sometimes gender) of a person changes radically with doing a film adaptation of an existing property. (I think I'm one of the only people that didn't like the fact that King Pin was black in the Ben Affleck Daredevil movie and I was only able to get over Starbuck being a woman in the recently ended revival of Battlestar Galacttica because the Starbuck name itself was a call sign not an actual character.) And the reason it bothers me is because often times there is no excuse for it. I'm sure there were plenty of large muscular white guys that could have played King Pin (WWE's The Big Show comes to mind) just as I'm sure there are plenty of men of Persian decent that could have filled the role (Oded Fehr and Rudolf Martin come to mind on that one).
However despite my being a stickler for perfection when it comes to casting there is an almost 100% chance that I will be a theater somewhere this May to watch it. I just hope that they keep the witty banter between Prince and Farrah that kept me laughing while playing the game (and some of the conversation in the trailer has me thinking it will be faithful).
Below is a trailer for the film. Looks nice and it looks like there will be a good amount of acrobatics and sword play in it.
Because the school board, in Balch Springs near Dallasm TX, determined that his hair was too long and thus warranted suspension.
Amazing how in this day and age that gender roles are so rigid that they are grounds for keeping a boy from going to school to learn like he should. And that is just what it is, gender roles. For ages males have had a set of standards held over their heads that dictate how they must look, dress, act, talk, etc... in order to be welcomed into the arms of society.
If you look at the video on that page I linked to the end of it says that he is growing his hair out for his aunt that is currently battling cancer. Now while this is certainly a justified reason for one to grow their hair pointing it out feels like it is necessary to find a reason for it. Its not. The boy wants to grow out his hair and his hair is not disturbing or bothering anyone.
This past Monday the school board threw a bone in the form of holding a closed door meeting and coming to the conclusion that young Taylor would be allowed to wear his hair in a braid but said braid cannot come down past his ears.
Now I'm sure the system thinks they are making some grand gesture here but they are still trying to keep people's hair in check for what? Fear that he might like his long hair and keep it that way forever? Fear that other kids might decide they want to do the same? Fear that this one little boy might start a hair movement that will lead to social upheaval of their entire school district?
Crazy I know...
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Apparently carrying on a relationship with a married man is more than "tell-all interviews and a shot at hush money". The poor dears.
According to author Sarah Symonds, who allegedly carried on a long-term affair with TV chef Gordon Ramsay, those on-the-side relationships mean hard work.
Symonds runs a support group called Mistresses Anonymous, the only known group to offer support women who are in bad relationships with married men (as if there is a such thing as a good relationship with a married man?)
Who would have thought that after all those secret rendezvous, extramarital sex, and home wrecking there was so much turmoil to be had for a woman that chooses to get involved with a man that she knows is married.
It must be hard to meet him, realize he is married (and in this case there is NO room to claim they didn't know Tiger was married) and decide to get down with him anyway. How hard it must be for her to know that she is betraying a woman in a manner that more than likely she would not want done to her. Oh woe is this woman for having a hand in potentially destroying the home and lives of innocent children.
But seriously I wonder if this is just a money/attention grab.
“Ideally what I'd like to do is a TV special with all of Tiger's mistresses, where they could discuss the downside to being ‘the other woman,’ and whether he was good in bed.”
I don't know about you but getting together all the mistresses of Tiger Woods so that you can do a TV special sounds a whole hell of a lot like a tell-all interview to me. Tiger himself is not innocent but unless he forced all of those women to have relationships with him there is plenty of responsibility to go around.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Now with Gizmodo being a tech there is no question that the main point of this was to call attention to the tech behind someone using the Phostoshop software to meld two women together for the "best of both worlds" approach. Well the person here took it a few steps further and placed 16 women in a tournament like setup and blended 1&2, 3&4, 5&6, etc... After the "first round" the remaining 8 composites are blended 1&2, etc... until at the end there is one master composite woman that has traits from each of the original 16 women. (BTW I have to say that I find the Ann Hathaway/Angelina Jolie composite, the Hilary Duff/Jennifer Love-Hewitt composite, and the result of Duff/Hewitt blended with the Beil/Alba composite to be absolutely gorgeous.)
Don't worry people did call attention to the fact that all 16 of them are of European decent. However what you should worry about is the explosion that went off in the comment section.
Now since this seems to be a project done by a single person so while I do find it odd that the list is pretty monotone and limited to an narrow age range I'm not so quick to call this person racist/agist. I mean if this had been done as some official ad/ranking/experiment/whatever by Adobe (the creators of the Photoshop software) then I would certainly have problems with it. But even with the issues of beauty being equated with white and young if this is the work of an individual can you really go straight from seeing this project to declaring them racist/agist?
I suppose it was an effort to build up at least some of the massive amount of political street cred he has been hemorrhaging since he was removed from office upon being brought up on corruption charges that include an alleged attempt to give away the Illinois Senate seat that was vacated when Barack Obama won the 2008 presidential election in exchange for future political favors. But whatever the reason for the remark was he fucked up.
Blagojevich brought up his upbringing as proof of his blackness.
"I'm blacker than Barack Obama. I shined shoes. I grew up in a five-room apartment. My father had a little laundromat in a black community not far from where we lived," Blagojevich said. "I saw it all growing up."
Okay if this is the list of criteria that certifies one's blackness then I'm sure I'm not the only that comes up short. I've never shined shoes. I did not grow up in a five room apartment. My dad did not run a laundromat in a black community. And I most certainly have not seen it all.
But I'll bet I can think of at least a few things he has not gone through to "verify" his blackness.
Had white people "joke" about him being a thief.
Made eye contact (mostly white) women in a parking and then their quicken pace...in daytime.
Gotten in an elevator with (mostly white) women and see them inch over while clutching their purses.
Having a bit of seriousness in his voice about not wanting to be alone at work if the security alarm goes off and police get dispatched.
Going into stores to have employees follow him around the whole time.
Wonder if he would become one of those "1 in 3 black men ages 18-25 that are in prison or have been in prison".
Being told to "Go back to Africa!" or told that the Atlantic Slave trade should be restarted.
But enough of that because even those things are not criteria for calculating someone's blackness. What I am trying to say is that it is pretty damn disrespectful to try to relate to a group of people just because you might have some things in common with that group as if those things are the standard. He could have simply said he's not had an easy life and then listed those things. But maybe because he was hoping to get sympathy by associating with a marginalized group, was trying to jab at Obama, or whatever he decided to go the extra mile and call himself black.
I mean its not like I can say that since I care about my nails, don't like horror movies, and can cook pretty damn good I can say I'm more woman than Hilary Clinton right?
Friday, January 8, 2010
Why isn't anyone calling for Mary J. Blige's head now?
From what I can tell apparently back in December at an album release party Mary J. Blige got into an argument with her husband Martin Kendu Isaacs and punched him. And it would seem that after the punches HE was thrown out of the party.
Frankly I hope the only reason this has not gotten as much press as Brown/Rihanna is because it can't be proven the abuse did not happen...otherwise this is a shining example of the double standard when it comes to domestic violence in which the coverage and reaction depends on not what happened but the genders of the abuser/abused.
So much for taking domestic violence seriously...
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Courtesy of Nappturality I present to you 10 Things No To Put In Your Hair:
Written by deecoily
10 THINGS TO AVOID PUTTING ON YOUR HAIR!
Most of the commercially available hair care products today use harmful, potentially carcinogenic ingredients. In the interest of good napptural health, I list below, what are in my opinion, the 10 worst commonly found product ingredients thngs you can put on your hair (and body). Check the list of ingredients on your hair products. The more of a particular ingredient you have in a product, the closer it is to the top of the list of ingredients on the bottle:
1. ISOPROPYL ALCOHOL: This is a solvent and denaturant (poisonous substance that changes another substances natural qualities). Isopropyl alcohol is found in hair color rinses, body rubs, hand lotions, after-shave lotions, fragrances and many other cosmetics. This petroleum-derived substance is also used in antifreeze and as a solvent in shellac. Napptural hair reacts very badly to isoalcohol and this ingredient should be avoided at ALL costs. It will dry your hair out and break it off. According to A Consumer's Dictionary of Cosmetic Ingredients, inhalation or ingestion of the vapor may cause headaches, flushing, dizziness, mental depression, nausea, vomiting, narcosis and even coma in extreme cases.
2. MINERAL OIL & PETROLATUM: The best baby oil is made from almonds. But the oil which being sold as baby oil is 100% mineral oil. Mineral oil is a derivative of crude oil (petroleum) that is used industrially as a cutting fluid and lubricating oil. This commonly used petroleum ingredient coats the skin and hair just like plastic wrap. The skin's natural barrier is disrupted as this plastic coating inhibits its ability to breathe and absorb the Natural Moisture Factor (moisture and nutrition). The skin's ability to release toxins and wastes is impossible through this "plastic wrap," which can promote acne and other disorders. It further hinders normal skin respiration/transpiration by keeping oxygen out. This process slows down skin function and normal cell development causing the skin to prematurely age. Holding in large a mounts of moisture in the skin can "flood" the biology and may result in immature, unhealthy, sensitive skin that dries out easily. Petrolatum - A petroleum-based grease that is used industrially as a grease component. Petrolatum exhibits many of the same potentially harmful properties as mineral oil.
Honestly, this stuff belongs in your engine, not on your hair. Regardless of "Well, my Grandma used vaseline on her hair and it grew ", the bottom line is this stuff is bad. It was bad for Grandma and it is bad for you. Period.
3. PEG: This is an abbreviation for polyethylene glycol that is used in making cleansers to dissolve oil and grease as well as thicken products. Because of their effectiveness, PEG's are often used in caustic spray on oven cleaners and yet are found in many personal care products. PEG's contribute to stripping the Natural Moisture Factor, leaving the immune system vulnerable. They are also potentially carcinogenic.
4. PROPYLENE GLYCOL (PG): As a "surfactant" or wetting agent and solvent, this ingredient is actually the active component in antifreeze. There is no difference between the PG used in industry and the PG used in personal care products. It is used in industry to break down protein and cellular structure (what the skin is made of) yet is found in most forms of make-up, hair products, lotions, after-shave, deodorants, mouthwashes and toothpaste. It is also used in food processing. Because of its ability to quickly penetrate the skin, the EPA requires workers to wear protective gloves, clothing and goggles when working with this toxic substance. The Material Safety Data Sheets warn against skin contact, as PG has systemic consequences such as brain, liver and kidney abnormalities. Consumers are not protected nor is there a warning label on products such as stick deodorants, where the concentration is greater than that in most industrial applications.
5. SODIUM LAURYL SUFATE (SLS) & SODIUM LAURETH SULFATE (SLES): SLS is used in testing labs as the standard ingredient to irritate skin. Used as detergents and surfactants, these closely related compounds are found in car wash soaps, garage floor cleaners and engine degreasers. Yet both SLS and SLES are used more widely as one of the major ingredients in cosmetics, toothpaste, hair conditioner and about 90% of all shampoos and products that foam. They are used in personal-care products because they are cheap. A small amount generates a large amount of foam, and when salt is added it thicken to give the illusion of being thick and concentrated. (SOME OF THE NITROSATING AGENTS ARE: SLS, SLES, DEA, TEA, MEA). Shampooing the hair with a product contaminated with these substances can lead to its absorption into the body at levels much higher than eating nitrite-contaminated foods.
Mark Fearer in an article, Dangerous Beauty, says, "...in tests, animals that were exposed to SLS experienced eye damage, along with depression, labored breathing, diarrhea, severe skin irritation and corrosion and death." According to the American College of Toxicology states both SLS and SLES can cause malformation in children's eyes. Other research has indicated SLS may be damaging to the immune system, especially within the skin. Skin layers may separate and inflame due to its protein denaturing properties. It is possibly the most dangerous of ad ingredients in personal care products. Research has shown that SLS when combined with other chemicals can be transformed into nitrosamines, a potent class of carcinogens, which causes the body to absorb nitrates at higher levels than eating nitrate contaminated food." According to the American College of Toxicity report, "SLS stays in the body for up to five days..." Other studies have indicated that SLS easily penetrates through the skin and enters and maintains residual levels in the heart, the liver, the lungs and the brain. This poses serious questions regarding its potential health threat through its use in shampoos, cleansers and toothpaste,"
Studies show its danger potential to be great when used in personal-care products. Toxicity - A serious problem with these chemicals is that they may be contaminated with NDELA (N-nitrosodiethanolamine), one of the nitrosamines and a potent carcinogen, according to a 1978 FDA report.
Sodium Laureth Sulfate (SLES) - SLES is the alcohol form (ethoxylated) of SLS. It is slightly less irritating than SLS, but may be more drying. Both SLS and SLES can enter the blood stream. They may cause potentially carcinogenic formations of nitrates and dioxins to form in shampoos and cleansers by reacting with other product ingredients. Large amounts of nitrates may enter the blood system from just one shampooing. Contains ether.
6. CHLORINE: According to Doris J. Rapp, M.D., author of Is This your Child's World? exposure to chlorine in tap water, Showers, pool, laundry products, cleaning agents, food processing, sewage systems and many others, can effect health by contributing to asthma, hay fever, anemia, bronchitis, circulatory collapse, confusion, delirium diabetes, dizziness, irritation of the eye, mouth, nose throat, lung, skin and stomach, heart disease, high blood pressure and nausea. It is also a possible cause of cancer. Even though you will not see Chlorine on personal care product labels, it is important for you to be aware of the need to protect your skin when bathing and washing your hair.
7. DEA (diethanolamine) MEA (momoethnanolamine) TEA (triethanolamine): DEA and MEA are usual listed on the ingredients label in conjunction with the compound being neutralized. Thus look for names like Cocamide DEA or MES, Lauramide DEA, etc. These are hormone disrupting chemicals and are known to form cancer causing nitrates and nitrosamines. . These are commonly found in most personal care products that foam, including bubble baths, body washes, shampoos, soaps and facial cleansers. On the show, CBS This Morning, Roberta Baskin revealed that a recent government report shows DEA and MEA are readily absorbed in the skin. Dr. Samuel Epstein, Professor of Environmental Health at the University of Illinois said "repeated skin applications of DEA-based detergents resulted in a major increase in the incidence of two cancers - liver and kidney cancers." John Bailey, who oversees the cosmetic division for the FDA said the new study is especial important since "the risk equation changes significantly for children."
8. FD & C Color PIGMENTS: Many color pigments cause skin sensitivity and irritation. Absorption of certain colors can cause depletion of oxygen in the body and even death according to A Consumer's dictionary of Cosmetic Ingredients. Debra Lynn Dadd says in Home Safe Home: "Colors that can be used in foods, drug, and cosmetics are made from coal tar. There is a great deal of controversy about their use, because animal studies have shown almost all of them to be carcinogenic."
9. FRAGRANCE: Fragrance is present in most deodorants shampoos, sunscreens, skin care, body care and baby products. Many of the compounds in fragrance are carcinogenic or otherwise toxic. "Fragrance on a label can indicate the presence of up to 4,000 separate ingredients. Most or all of them are synthetic. Symptoms reported to the FDA have included headaches, dizziness, rashes, skin discoloration, violent coughing and vomiting, and allergic skin irritation. Clinical observation by medical doctors have shown that exposure to fragrances can affect the central nervous system, causing depression, hyperactivity, irritability, inability to cope, and other behavioral changes," (Home Safe Home).
For better health try purchasing unscented products and for fragrance, adding a natural essential oil.
10. IMIDAZOLIDINYL UREA and DMDM HYDANTOIN: These are just two of the many preservatives that release formaldehyde (formaldehyde-donors). According to the Mayo clinic, formaldehyde can irritate the respiratory system, cause skin reactions and trigger heart palpitations. Exposure to formaldehyde may cause joint pain, allergies, depression, headaches, chest pains, ear infections, Chronic fatigue, dizziness and loss of sleep. It can also aggravate coughs and colds and trigger asthma. Serious side effects include weakening of the immune system and cancer. Nearly all brands of skin, body and hair care, antiperspirants and nail polish found in stores contain formaldehyde-releasing ingredients.
If the above information is not enough to make you read labels on things before using them on yourself of your babies, nothing will.
Well when you are looking for focus you have to start somewhere. Keyword being start. No matter what classes of people you are a part of you started your activism/blogging/speaking up/education from somewhere. And based on that I think I'm going to start collecting various human rights 101 materials. Nothing wrong with getting some education and sharing it.
So just in case you don't know what a 101 is let me try to explain.
In the college education system most courses have a number behind them such Calculus 300. That number is a reference to the difficulty level of the content of that course where the lower the number is the lower the difficulty. So when you have something called Men's Rights 101 that would be content relating to Men's Rights that is meant to serve the purpose of introducing people to the basic concepts of that movement. You will not likely come across things like why the concept of chivalry damages men (and undermines women) or why men speaking up does not automatically mean that they are trying to oppress women but more like things like looking at how men are kept out of the lives of their children.
If you look over at the side bar you will see a new section called "Haunting Grounds 101". As time passes and I come across various 101 materials (not just human rights stuff I'm talking tech, money, cooking, sewing, whatever) that catch my attention I will add them. And please don't be afraid to drop links to any 101 material you think should be added. This isn't just for me but is for anyone that comes to visit my corner.
Here's to good beginnings.
I'm able to do plenty with the free space that Google has provided me with in this time but I wonder if I could take this place to new heights and get some recognition if I were to purchase it. But I'm not sure exactly I would get out of registration.
To anyone reading this that has registered their domain and gone up from free spaces what more do you get out of it?
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Duh you make Oyster Dressing and Wheaty Bread Pudding
1 Box of Conrnbread Stovetop
1 cup of milk
1 cup of boiling water
1/2 stick of butter
About 15 raw oysters
While the water is boiling empty the Stovetop pack into a large mixing bowl and either cut your butter into pieces and add it in ( so that the boiling water can melt it more easily) or melt then add it to the bowl. Once the water is ready add 1 cup of it along with 1 cup of milk. Stir it. Stir in the egg. Stir in the oysters. You'll notice its a lot looser than what would happen if you had just followed the box. That's okay because we are baking it in the oven. Put it in a greased pan and bake at about 350 until like a cake you can stick a fork all the way through it and it comes out clean. Depending on how deep the pan is it should be around 30min. or so.
Wheaty Bread Pudding
(I actually looked at this by Paula Deen for inspiration.
About 12 slices of wheat bread and let it sit out all day so it can get hard and stale. I started off with only 9 pieces and had to add 3 more while mixing. And since those other three pieces were white bread its safe to say you can use whatever type of bread you have. Don't be scared to experiment.
2 cups of granulated sugar
1 cup of milk
1 cup of soy milk
1/2 stick of butter
First in a large mixing bowl tear the bread up into pieces (kinda like you would if you were at the park feeding birds). In another bowl I mixed 1 cup of the granulated sugar and the 5 eggs (I was going to try to do mix both in but the sugar kept sinking to the bottom of the bowl). Pour this mixture over the bread and stir it up. In that other bowl mix the 2 cups of milk (I personally am a fan of soy so I used it but I'm sure you can use whatever milk you want) with the other cup of granulated sugar. Pour this onto the bread and stir it up. Melt the butter and mix it in. Let it sit for about 1o minutes (the goal is to let the bread soak up the liquids. Stir it up before placing it in a greased pan and baking at 350 until like a cake you can put a fork through it and it comes out clean (about 45min.)
Good stuff. I especially like this because the final result had a crunchy top and soft bottom.
4 boneless skinless chicken breasts
2 pkgs. of sliced mushrooms (you know the ones that come in the little styrofoam box and are covered in plastic wrap)
1 bag of shredded broccoli, red cabbage, and carrots (I didn't even know you could buy this until I saw in the store while looking for veggies).
1 box of bean sprouts
1/2 of a white onion (I had to make my Garlonionshroom Potatoes for a lunch at work a few days before Christmas and still had half of the white onion from that left over.
Boiling Bag Long Grain Brown Rice
Szechuan Sauce (store bought)
In an effort to get the different flavors I cooked the ingredients in parts and then just mixed them at the end. Oh but to give the flavors a chance to mix a bit I did not wash out my skillet after each set.
1. I sauteed the onion in oil and black pepper. Once they got soft I added a pack of the mushrooms and cooked them together until the mushrooms were browned and soft. Set them aside.
2. I sauteed the other pack of mushrooms in the szechuan sauce and oil and let them get brown and soft then added the bean sprouts. My goal here was to not let the bean sprouts get soggy from over cooking. Set aside.
3. I sauteed the shredded broccoli/carrots/red cabbage in crushed red pepper and oil. The goal here is to cook them but not let them get too soft. You can cook longer if you don't want them crunchy.
4. I simply cleaned and cut up the chicken into chunks and panfried it in the szechuan and oil. My trick to this is to leave on piece significantly larger than the other (the control piece if you will) and when that piece is done all the way through cook it for about 3 more minutes to make certain and then its ready.
5. While doing steps one through four you can go ahead and cook your rice (well I used brown rice but you can use whatever rice or noodles you want, or none at all).
6. Finally I laid a bed of rice in each container (remember I'm taking these to work) and then added a about a large spoonful of each of the four different parts (1. mushroom/onion, 2. mushroom/bean sprouts, 3. broccoli/carrots/red cabbage, 4. chicken) and that was that.
People like to talk about "The Boys Club" or "The Good Ole Boy Network" like having a male body means a life a lap and luxury. Its not.
Yesterday about an hour after I got to work my boss (the Director of IT of the bank I work for) was fired. Why? Simply put he didn't play his role like he was supposed to in order to stay in his position of power.
A new president came into the company last June and shortly after getting here my boss pretty much let it be known he was not going to be a Yes Man for anyone. That put the bullseye on him. I personally had a love/hate relationship. He had his good moments and his bad. On one hand he would back me up and face down the gods themselves for his people...well depending on what day of the week it is, which god it is, and what mood he is in at that moment. People in power don't like having underlings they can't control. Such people are a challenge and threat to their own power.
In fact to illustrate this it is worth noting that in the last six months this new president has created two new positions despite saying his goal is to save money and help the bank grow. Both of these new positions are upper management positions (so between the two of them we are probably looking at $150k/yr in salary alone) and guess who he filled them with. People he has worked with in the past. And to drive the point home my new boss is a young management type guy. From the little I've seen of him and chatting with the guys in my department he seems to be the young eager to please type which means he is ripe pickings for this new president. Young managers that are eager to please are easier to mold to your liking.
So moral of the story: Even if you are a middle aged white heterosexual male that is married to a woman and have kids you are still expected to play by the script and if you don't you will be fucking destroyed.
Being black I'm expected to go down in a spiral of gang violence, drugs, prison, and not being in the lives of the children I helped create. The gang violence, drugs, and prison are meant to keep the numbers of my race under control. We are out there on the streets literally thinning our own numbers just as fast if not faster than the direct actions of "the man" By not being there for the children we help create we are destroying the black family (I assure you that despite what Obama may take the time to say on every Father's Day the destruction of the black family is not solely the fault of men) by way of not giving our kids the safe place and guidance they need to grow up and become responsible adults themselves. And often when a child is denied that they there is a good chance they will then repeat the cycle by doing the same to the children they help create one day.
And to complete the circle people of my race are taught that to want something more in life is proof of being a traitor to one's race. Want an education? You're an Uncle Tom/Thomasina. Want to move to a safer place for your kids? You are turning your back on where you came from. Want a high end job with a good salary and benefits? You're acting like a white woman/man.
With influences like that its no wonder people of color get stuck in self destructive spirals.
Being male I'm expected to toil my life away working outside the home to provide for children and to "protect the women" from the dangers of the outside. Yes protecting women from the dangers of the outside is a very big part of the male gender role (and very damaging, chivalry can kiss my ass). However as far as children are concerned I am taught that my worth to my children is measures in how much money I can give. A part of my job of protecting women is to take on the dangerous jobs so they don't have to and my character is often weighed by this. Another part of this is that when compared to women and children my life is worth less than theirs but I can prove my worth by risking and even losing my life to help them live. (Don't get me wrong there are few things that are more noble than risking one's life for another. Yet there is a big difference between doing it because you care and doing it because your gender role says so.) And as far as children are concerned I am not supposed to be around them because I am supposedly a molester waiting for the opportunity to violate them.
And to complete the circle there are people lining up with taunts to keep me in line if I stray. Don't want to risk your life to help a woman? You're a coward. You're the primary caretaker for the children? You're a molster/rapist. You're doing it because you aren't a real man by not being the one to work outside the home. You're doing it to hurt their mom. Take your pick. You're talking about your pain. You're not a man because real men don't talk about their pain they hold it in.
No wonder men hold in their pain and frustration until they go on rampages and die way too soon.
Just pondering over how my gender and race make me the target of some sinister shit.
Monday, January 4, 2010
Freestyle Rap Battle
Originally posted at benandryan.com this is a satirical translation of a rap battle. In the original there is no music meaning that whoever posted it at youtube added the music later. Someone told me about this while I was on vacation and I've been laughing ever since.
War - Cisco Kid
Many many months ago I first heard this song while reading a post at Transgriot and I've been bobbing my head to it since. Why can't some shit like this be in Rock Band?
Shimmy Blooper Reel
For those of you that don't know there is a series of instructional belly dancing videos called Shimmy. They originally ran in 2007 and FitTV has been playing them in rotation. I've been watching them because mainly I like the music, the stretches they do seem to be basic enough for a guy like me to try, the announcer's sounds so peaceful, and finally because yes I do find the women attractive. Well for the longest time I've never considered the idea that instructional videos could have blooper reels. Yeah this video did a nice job of shattering that. And now that I think about it it is probably extremely easy to have a blooper reel in an instructional video. All you need is more than one person performing the actions. Comedy will ensue. What makes this even funnier is that the actual announcer from the show is trying to tell what they are doing...but it doesn't always end well.
And one more thing:
If you are going to try the dance steps from Beyonce's "Single Ladies" by all that is holy don't dance near the tv!!!!!
I think I'm almost ready to get back to work now...
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Yes that is a trio of men performing the dance routine from the original video and it looks like they have thrown in a few additional steps of their own.
Yes yes I know I'm a bit obsessed with this song but its such a great beat and I can't help myself around such a great beat.
Well until I find another one...
Edit: Okay I found another one already.
Interesting but the editor was a little too happy with the video effects.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
As most people understand boyfriend and girlfriend are labels attached to an intimate partner of that gender. Well along with those two basic definitions girlfriend seems to have another. When a woman/girl talks about another woman/girl who is a close personal friend but not an intimate partner she still refers to her as her girlfriend. (It also seems that in at least tv/movies girls/women also refer to close person homosexual male friends as girlfriends as well but I've never heard it in actual conversation so I'm not sure about that. Any women want to chime in on that?)
So you have:
Girlfriend: An intimate partner of the female gender.
Girlfriend 2: A close personal friend of the female gender or (possibly) male of homosexual orientation.
Boyfriend: An intimate partner of the male gender.
Boyfriend 2: ???
Being a heterosexual (for the most part) male I can fully understand why this is. Nearly everyone on the planet understands the main meaning of girl/boyfriend. Well as guys one of the things that we are taught is that while we can be close to each other in a non-intimate manner it should only be done under certain circumstances (and if it is intimate then it should NEVER be done). I think that out of fear of of it being understood as the definition of Boyfriend (and therefore intimate) 1 we don't use what I would think Boyfriend 2 (a close friend of the male gender and I suppose women of homosexual orientation) would be.
Yes I have male friends that I'm close with, could tell anything to, and would walk barefoot into hell with them or for them. But I would never call them my boyfriends. I'd call them my boys, my fellas, my bros, etc...but never boyfriend because of the thought that someone would interpret it as intimate partner rather than close friend. It almost feels like avoiding that wording is something like a "no homo" moment.
But I also notice that women also don't use boyfriend in regards to a close male friend so it seems like there is plenty of fear to go around when it comes to the thought of referring to a close male friend as a boyfriend.
What's your thoughts on the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing?
Friday, January 1, 2010
Yes you read that right. A while back I made some egg nog pancakes but the egg nog taste wasn't that strong. I was talking about it at work and someone mentioned putting egg nog in a cake. The light above my afro went off.
I really didn't want to put in the time in to making a cake from scratch (which BTW is 3 eggs, 3cups of flour, 2 sticks of butter, 2 cups of sugar, 1 cup of milk, 1tsp. vanilla flavoring) so I just bought a cake mix. To that mix I added:
1/3 cup of oil
1 2/3 cups of egg nog
1 tsp vanilla flavor
At first I only added 1 cup of egg nog but since it is thicker than standard milk it takes a bit more to get it to the right consistency. Now normally you preheat the oven to 350 and let it cook. However since this batter is thicker than normal it requires you to cook it a slightly lower heat (300) for longer time. If the heat is too high the cake will burn around the edges before the middle can finish cooking. You want to shoot for about 30-40min or until you can stick a fork all the way through the middle of the pan and it comes out clean. While that is cooking let's make the frosting.
2 cups of powdered sugar
1 stick of butter
about 1 cup of egg nog
What you want to do is get your butter soft (what I did was put it in my mixing bowl and sat it on top of the over while the cake was cooking) and then add the sugar to it. When you mix it you'll get lumps but that is okay. Add egg nog a little at a time until the frosting is at your desired consistency. If you go too far with the egg nog you can counter by adding more sugar.
Once the cake is cooked and cooled you can spread the frosting on it.
Edit: Okay after the cake was cooked, cooled, and frosted I noticed that the cake itself is very dense. Chances are this is a result of using egg nog instead of milk or that I should have maybe used egg nog and milk instead of fully replacing. The frosting tastes good but like the cake got hard and got a little dense. So I guess the end result is that this recipe works but would be better if I use egg nog and milk instead of all egg nog. The sucky part is that since egg nog is a seasonal drink I'll have to wait til next winter to try it again.
One of his latest (source) is of how a few weeks ago Mike Kelly, (now former) head coach of the Canadian Football League's Winnipeg Blue Bombers, was released from his job after being arrested after an altercation with former girlfriend Andrea Peterson. Now one problem is obvious but the other is not so. Allow me to explain.
According to Bridgeport (about 30 km northwest of Philadelphia, PA) police:
...Peterson told them she was in the process of moving some of her possessions out of Kelly’s home when he confronted her and an argument ensued...Kelly denies hitting his ex-girlfriend and claims she started punching him in the face and that he grabbed her in self-defence.
Here's where it gets tricky. Under Pennsylvania domestic violence laws, police are required to make an arrest if there is evidence of assault of any type, no matter how minor.
Wait for it....
According to Bridgeport Police Sgt. John Cane:
“She told us they had an argument and (Kelly) grabbed her and she showed the officers that she had some redness around her neck, she had a small bruise or cut on her lip and on her knuckle,” Cane said. “His face had some minor swelling to it. He accused her of hitting him.”
See it? Yeah I know with the way people talk about DV it could be hard to catch if you aren't careful and get caught up in the rhetoric that dominates the discourse on DV these days.
Under state law on domestic violence, an arrest is required if there is evidence of any type of assault, no matter how small.
So under this you have a former couple get into an argument that turned physical. By the time the police got to the scene she had a red spot on her neck a cut on the lip and bruise on her knuckle and his face was swollen.
Can someone explain to me that despite it being mandatory to make an arrest when there is the smallest evidence of assault only the man was arrested?
I would think that at the worst both of them would have been busted but since people still think that women aren't violent or assume she only did it in self defense he gets arrested and she walks free. Until people can start seeing and acknowledging the truth about DV (and that truth is that DV is NOT gendered) we are not going to see much in the way of progress towards preventing it and helping the victims that need help.
So much for equal protection under the law...
Oh and about his getting fired the official word from spokespeople for the team is that his termination had nothing to do with the arrest. Yeah an emergency meeting was called after his arrest became public knowledge and they just happen to decide to terminate him for other reasons not related to the arrest. Good to know.