Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Gender Symmetry Table (v1 no doubt)

Things have been pretty hectic and I'll be honest I kinda sorta forgot to come back and post this. Trying to bear in mind some of the feedback from last time I'm going to give the table a try.

Now as last time this is by no means an attempt at an all exhaustive listing of every single instance of symmetry in relation to gender. Or at least I can't do that on my own (frankly no one person could). Nor is it meant to be a scoreboard to point at when trying to say that one side doesn't have it as bad as the other. Instead this is meant to get people thinking about what needs to be worked on.

So I present to you the Gender Symmetry Table v1!

The first column (from the left) are the expectations of, the second column are the expectations, and the final two columns are variations of those expectations (this would be where iintersectionality would fit).




























































Gender Symmetry Table
Men are expected to be the external provider.*Women are expected to be the internal provider.*Working class men are expected to work demanding jobs which take even more time away from their family.Working class women are expected to be internal and external providers when the need arises.
Men are expected to sacrifice time with the family for the sake of career.Women are expected to sacrifice career for the sake of time with the family.
Men are expected to be external providers in order to verify their manhood.Women are expected to be internal providers in order to verify their womanhood.
When men try to break their expected gender role by spending time with the family ulterior motives are suspected (ie, "he's only around children so he can molest them", "what kind of man stays at home with the kids?")When women try to break their expected gender role by spending more time on a career ulterior motives are suspected (ie, "she must not have a man in her life", "what kind of woman works outside the home?")
Women are segregated into lower-paying jobs. (by Ampersand)Men are segregated into more dangerous jobs. (by Ampersand)
Males** are expected to be overflowing with sexual knowledge no matter what, lest their masculinity be questioned.Females** are expected to be lacking in sexual knowledge at all costs, lest their femininity be questioned.
Males are expected to be overcome with a never ending desire for sex with any and all women.Females are expected to lack sexual desire until a male ignites their desire for them.
Women are discouraged from initiating contact. (by Ampersand)Men are expected to initiate contact. (by Ampersand)
Females are unfairly believed to indicate their sexual desire with clothing and behavior. (Hence the "how she was acting with that guy" and "how she was dressed" slut shaming of female victims.)Males are unfairly believed to indicate with sexual desire by being male. (Hence the idea that males are always consenting to sex therefore there is no way to rape a male.)
Men are expected to not show emotion; men showing emotion are considered weak and vulnerable. (by Desipis)Women are expected to show emotion; women not showing emotion are considered cold and uncaring. (by Desipis)
Men are considered to be emotionally independent; men requiring emotional support (especially from someone other than a sexual partner) are considered weak and vulnerable. (by Desipis)Women are considered to be emotionally supportive of others; women not emotionally supportive are considered cold and uncaring. (by Desipis)
Women are expected to be experts on children and childrearing. (by Ampersand) Men are assumed to be dullards on children and childrearing. (by Ampersand)
A woman who doesn't "feminize" her appearance by shaving legs, wearing makeup, styling hiar, etc., may be shamed. (by Ampersand)A man does "feminize" his appearance in the same ways may be shamed. (by Ampersand)



* - External provider being one who works outside the home and Internal provider being one who works inside the home.

** - I'm using males/females in place of having to spell out men/boys and girls/women constantly.

9 comments:

JE said...

The last two columns of the first row go into the margin in my browser (chrome).

Mostly true stuff, but I think some of the social stuff is varies in different subcultures and social circles

desipis said...

The table looks like a good approach. If you get more rows sorting them into categories might be a good idea too.

I've thought of another pair:
Women are socialised to be fearful and overly risk averse;
Men are socialised to think of themselves as invulnerable and be risk seeking.

I'm also seeing that problem with Firefox.

Danny said...

Thanks for the heads up on the table goof.

JE: Thanks for dropping JE. The weird thing is I made this table in Chrome. However I was using only Blogger's preview feature to see how things were lining up and not actually viewing it in the browser.

Mostly true stuff, but I think some of the social stuff is varies in different subcultures and social circles
Yes there will be variations and that's why I state that this is not meant to be a complete list because there are lots of cultures, subcultures, and characteristics that I have no experience with.

Desipis: If this gets big enough I may have to just make a formal document of them and just make it a download or something.

I've adjusted the dimensions on the table so give it another look if you will.

desipis said...

The table layout looks good for me now (Firefox).

Clarissa said...

Absolutely brilliant!

I don't even have a single objection, which is very rare for me. :-)

Tit for Tat said...

Interesting post Danny. Isnt it amazing how many people would wish we fit these boxes.

Danny said...

Thanks for the vote of confidence Clarissa.

Titfortat
Isnt it amazing how many people would wish we fit these boxes.
Yes it is.

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