Thursday, August 11, 2011

Fourth question about porn

You know when I first started asking these questions I really didn't have an idea of what to do after the third one. Well thanks to Easily Enthused I now have a fourth one.

From part 3:
Without revealing too much - I want to point to two instances in my life that formed my tastes. I am very, very vanilla. I have no desire to be submissive or dominant - and I prefer the act to be like a dance between people.
However, I have a strong attraction to red heads with freckles and fair skin. I didn't know it when I first developed this attraction, but later I was flipping through an old photo album and saw a picture of my babysitter at age 2-4 - red hair, freckles, fair skin and slightly overweight. I don't remember her myself, but my parents told me that I loved being watched by her, and would often fall asleep on her chest after getting a bath from her. Read into that what you may.
What this is is EE questioning the idea of how our past experiences MAY play a part in our current sexuality with an example of his own. I added my own:
In fact I took a few free moments today to think about my preference of older/old women. As a kid I spent a lot of time around my grandmothers (as in my parents are at work and I would be at my grandmother's house til they got off). When I was doing the whole "horny teenage boy" thing I actually spent more time checking out the teachers than the girls my age. And even to this day I'm more likely to check out older/old women then women my own age (I'm 30 BTW).
And here is today's question.

Would you like to share any childhood/pre-sexual experiences that they think influenced their adult predispositions?

A few things.

1. While this rose out of sex and porn you aren't limited to that (I'm curious about other behaviors that sexual ones).

2. Please bear in mind that I AM NOT trying to say that there is a definite link between past experience and current tastes. I'm just letting my curiosity run free for a bit.

2a. So while I'm not trying to make that link I please ask that we keep this limited to sharing past experiences and current behavior. I don't want this to descend into arguing over whether said theory about such a link is true or not.

3. By all means you can share your experience anonymously if you wish. My commenting software allows for anonymous comments (you just have to put in some sort of handle, you can't leave it blank). So if you value your anonymity make sure you put in some other handle (and make sure you aren't logged into you Echo account when you do it.



This may turn out to be fun.

2 comments:

Anon said...

I'm told by all the adults who knew me, that I was a very talkative, overt child. At least until I was 4 years old, and my mother was diagnosed with leukaemia. My sister had been born a few months prior, but my father couldn't cope with her and me, so she had to be put into foster care. My father barely had time for me either, but he did his best. I don't think that what was going on was properly explained to me, and really, how can you explain that to a four year old? While my mother recovered fully, and my sister came back to the family, I was no longer talkative or overt, but had become really quiet and withdrawn. Twenty odd years later, it still takes me a huge amount of trust with someone to feel comfortable enough to let myself feel safe. When I do feel comfortable, I become noticeable more personable. To the point that people who I have let in, often comment on it.

So, yes, I do believe there is a very strong link between upbringing and adult personality.

Danny said...

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your family Anon.

Experiences like yours are why I believe that there is some merit to such a link.

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