Saturday, September 19, 2009

I need to give a mutha fuckin shout out!

Okay I'm sure if you've gotten to my little area here you have already read something about the case at Hoftra University in which a woman accused five men of raping her. Shortly after four of the five here arrested and had their names and faces plastered all over the media and as par the course the court of public opinion were already calling them rapists. Well some the woman in question has recanted and some evidence has shown up in the form of a video recorded on the cell phone of one of the men in question that might be able to prove that the sex was consensual. Now the shout out isn't because the media is actually publishing that these guys may have been falsely accused of rape but rather what the folks at feministing are talking about in (at least one of) their posts on it.

They are actually talking about the harm that false rape accusations do to men without whining that talking about the way the men in a rape accusation were treated is crying "what about teh menz?"

I know its shocking because it doesn't happen very often and most of the time they step right over the man with the broken life to still show concern for the woman (and the problem is that they are stepping over the man with the broken life, the woman may still need help) but I have to give it to them on this. Even with this in the post:
The incentives for false rape accusations, on the other hand, are few and far between. Think about how we treat women who stand up in public and say that they were raped. They are vilified.
people are still talking about how false accusations harm men.

Okay so the poster misses the incentive to make a false rape accusation by only focusing on the woman. What they are missing is that the incentive is the damage done to the man she accuses. She might be vilified but when the smoke clears that man will still be treated like a rapist, he might not be able to get his job back especially if it involved contact with children like teaching, women might still uncomfortable around him, parents might never trust their kids around him again, his friends and family might never treat him the same again. And the the ante goes even higher if he actually does end up in prison. There he might even end up a victim of the very crime he did not commit. Plain and simple destroying a man's life can be a big incentive for a woman to make a false allegation. In fact I almost witnessed one in college.

Back when I was a junior in college a freshman started hanging out with my social circle and she started to take a liking to a friend of mine. They hooked up a few times and even had sex a few times (once in my dorm room but that is another story). Well things went south and sometime after she flat out said to some of us, "I could accuse him of rape." Well immediately myself and the others that were there at the time (one other guy and 2 women) all said we would testify against her if she did that.

Now I'm sure some of you are thinking, "But Danny how do you know she wasn't raped?" To that I'll say:

1. She was grinning and rubbing her hands together when she said it. She really looked like a villainess hatching a plan.

2. What kind of woman saves a rape accusation as a trump card for when the relationship goes bad?

But anyway I have to say that this post restored some of my faith in that site.
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