Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Ah here's one

Remember the other night when I was talking about the difference between privilege and right? Well it would seem that The Fates have dropped the perfect example of a right into my lap.

What we have here is a man who was out in a public play area for children with his three children. As most parents do he decides he wants a momento of their happiness and begins taking pictures. Well it would seem that the woman operating an inflatable slide had seen way to many episodes of NBC Dateline: To Catch a Predator. Instead of calmly questioning the dad's motives for taking pictures (which would have still been way out of line) she just assumes the worst possible motives for taking photos and soon others started to gather around demanding to know what he is doing. Some even went so far as to accuse him of taking pictures to put up on the internet.

Okay you know how women say that they should be able to walk alone at night without fear of being attacked (and they most certainly should)? This is the same thing. I'll bet this man was just as angry over the fact that he can't be in close contact with children without getting Dateline called on him as the countless women out there that are upset over the fact that they have to be extra careful when alone. When is the last time you heard about a woman getting harassed like this when she was taking pictures of her kids playing?

This right here is a prime example of men being denied a right. The ability to come in close contact with their children without being labeled a pervert is not an unfair advantage that some people have. Everyone should have the right to come near their children and take pictures of them without having to face the humiliation of being called a child molester in public.

8 comments:

Renee said...

most of the sexual predators that abuse children are male. There is no arguing with that %. When it comes to kids people will be hyper vigilant. I am not at all justifying what she did as it certainly could have been handled differently. I should also point out that this interest in children by men is new and certainly was not a high priority before feminism.

Danny said...

Don't be so quick to assume that men's desire to have a more direct role in their children's lives just came out of nowhere in recent years.

Renee said...

Okay then educate me, where did it come from?
On an aside I will stop by in the morning and let you know where I got the new comment box for womanist musings...it's an easy html code I am just on the wrong computer right now.

Danny said...

For the most part men have always made their contribution to the home by working outside the home which meant time away from the family. Even though they know said outside work is necessary to maintain the home that doesn't mean they want to be away.

And another thing is for years men have had to deal with the fact that when it came time for custody to be decided in divorce unless the father had some high powered big dollar attorney he could look forward to draining his fortune to get some sort of custody awarded. And after all that the mom still has control over said custody/visitation and the courts will do nothing about it...until that all important child support is late.


Remember women aren't the only ones that have had to go without a voice .

Renee said...

Even though they know said outside work is necessary to maintain the home that doesn't mean they want to be away.
And then he sat down and watched the tv or read the paper. Interacting with children never became an issue until women forced the issue due to the double day. Household labor is till not evenly divided by gender.

Danny said...

And then he sat down and watched the tv or read the paper. And then he sat down and watched the tv or read the paper. Interacting with children never became an issue until women forced the issue due to the double day. Household labor is till not evenly divided by gender.
Are you sure he wasn't collapsed in front of the tv or sleep with the paper on his face. I know my dad dad was. Just as women often took/take on the unfair share of inside the house work men often took/take on the unfair share of outside the house work.


Household labor is till not evenly divided by gender.
And neither is outside of the house labor.

Renee said...

Are you sure he wasn't collapsed in front of the tv or sleep with the paper on his face. I know my dad dad was. Just as women often took/take on the unfair share of inside the house work men often took/take on the unfair share of outside the house work.
And it was a privilege he took by resting while the woman continued to work. Just because his day was spent in paid labor does not mean that the woman was not at home working just as hard, yet she was in the kitchen doing dinner while watched the evening news.

And neither is outside of the house labor.
yeah and men are smart enough to keep it that way...dinner must be done at a certain time each day, baths for kids etc whereas things like mowing the lawn can be done on convenience and don't necessarily even occur weekly...cry me a river, about who has the best deal there.

Danny said...

And it was a privilege he took by resting while the woman continued to work. Just because his day was spent in paid labor does not mean that the woman was not at home working just as hard, yet she was in the kitchen doing dinner while watched the evening news.
I won't dare question that the mom worked her ass off because I saw my mom do it. But just because she may have spent more hours a day working that the man does not mean she work was harder. And also the husband had some household responsibilities as well.


yeah and men are smart enough to keep it that way...dinner must be done at a certain time each day, baths for kids etc whereas things like mowing the lawn can be done on convenience and don't necessarily even occur weekly...cry me a river, about who has the best deal there.
Smart enough to keep it that way...yeah. I'm sure those men that literally kill themselves in hard labor did it for the sole reason of keeping women in the house and under control. Considering what the average life span for women vs. men I do wonder who had the "best deal"

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